Hello and welcome to another Monday. If you are new then each week I post a Cheat Sheet on various things and this week it is: Different Ways to Organise. I do a blog specifically about Organisation if you’d like to check it out:
I am always trying to better myself, example I wanted to get up earlier, but I fell back to sleep but I know when I do finally get up earlier more, like I have done in the past, will get more tasks done and I like getting up early, when it gets lighter again in the mornings will be better and will help me to be more awake and my energy boost is in the morning. However I do like my routine of reading first thing in the morning, during the day and in the evening.
People do think I am mad in wanting to get up super early but even thinking about this, is creating endorphins that makes me excited about it and know from experience that it will give me an extra boost.
The one thing I want to do next is to go on my early morning walks again. I love to walk and hearing the birds sing and hearing the trains and just taking in my surroundings. I am moving from my home in Wimbledon and I feel happy. Having to pack every week has taken it toll so now I am more or less be around the corner and my son is going to school, instead of going to the Library. It has been good. I have journaled, created a new book about a library and reading, but I feel school will be better for him and myself because he will have that interaction of making friends again, doing school clubs and back to his days broken up so he’s not restricted in one place and can run around during parts of the day and I can have some time to myself.
I also want to eliminate somethings. Unsubscribe from some Youtube channels. Not saying they are no good just my interests have changed, in what I like to watch and the same with my email accounts and reorganizing and sorting out the home.
So where is your life right now? What changes do you want to make?
It could be your finances. I am now on a Low Spend year and going to film more for my Financial Youtube Channel and not buying clothes and books and notebooks and this has made me really be vigilant with where my money goes. I do have a Youtube channel about how I manage my money to help you manage yours: (72) Financial Living – YouTube and I each year do No Spend January and do No Spend days.
It is good to go through your life and anything you not sure about and what would make that area in your life better? I need to get a lot done but I am looking forward to that and like having plenty to do and it will feel weird not being with my son, it will be a an adjustment again, but feel positive about it.
So where are you in your life and please let me know below of what you want to change and have more in your life if you don’t already? You can leave a comment below.
You look at a windowsill in your home and it is cluttered so you tidy it up and now you have a a bit more structure. Your child gets a certificate for learning at school. I manage to cook a meal, never cook before. These are the small things that can make a big difference in how we see ourself and our life.
This weeks Cheat Sheet is all about the Daily things I like to do on a daily basis that sets up my day. The small wins are just as good as the small ones. Today I tidied up and get clothes out of my son for the day. Have my two cups of tea I like to have in the mornings and later will get a take away coffee.
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It can be the hardest the times when you have nothing set up to feel good about yourself and your life. It is all about living in the moment and like I did another Radio show yesterday after feeling so nervous and it was good and so tip# Go through what you have done each day.
It is a better feeling that you have taken on action, a step towards the bigger tasks like at the weekend, I went through my clothes and it is good to let things go, to focus on each day and I don’t need a new outfit all the time and rather book things to do. At half term I am taking my son to a show and take him to the Cat Cafe in London and like booking days out for my son.
Tip# Write down what you enjoy.
Tip# Get a bag and start to go through a draw and at the weekend as I had so many clothes, told my mum to get rid of anything in the draws I was using, away. I am moving so no longer going to live in Wimbledon, this is a huge change and means really getting my head down and do more things to move towards the bigger things I want to do and decide on what is important to me now and what is not. Making one change can make a huge different. Check this blog: Making one change
I bet there are lot of people wanting Winter to be over. I hear it and not going to say “Oh think positively” if you can’t get your car out of the snow and you can’t go to work to earn your living, then how can you? Nature can have its evil side and so wish you all the best and hope that they have some way of contacting others. The feelings of people being stranded makes me want to wave a wand to get rid of the storms we have but you can’t so I will pray for you and those who you may know are stuck and they get help.
Going out it seemed okay and went for us here in Surrey a coffee and the darkness is making me feel cozy and grateful for what I have and feel different. There are things I’d like to do, I just fear housework. I am making sure Henry does some learning. He has two schools interested and so feel that some good things are on the horizon, but gonna see before I get my hopes up or look too far ahead of myself and live at a steady, slower pace.
Where is your mind at?
I think it is a natural to feel extra hungry or tired because we as humans need day light and when there is lack of it we feel like doing nothing and its okay to do that. Your not doing anything wrong and often we feel we are.
We still today as I write this blog, went out for a coffee and picked up a few things and Henry did some learning and I feel I being told subconsciously that not to worry about clearing out a bag, which in the end completing this blog did. Its okay to focus on my son and getting a place in a school, rather and housework as I received a call about Henry having an assessment. He has two next week and feel my prayers are being answered.
My sentence for me this year is “Wait and See” and not get impatient that things are taking their time. Sometimes life can be like that and with my son and school is taking my mind off on it being cold. I do find it hard to exercise when it is cold and move at all.
I have regretted things. I have really punished myself over them. Life is about moving on and going as the times goes and letting things go: Autumn Reset Day 5: Letting things go If there is a photo that makes you unhappy delete it. If there is a piece of clothing or furniture that makes you quiver and upset you then addressing your feelings can help aswell as letting them go.
There are certain songs that can trigger it and so I will play a song that makes me happy or change the thought because of that song. Listen with fresh ears and the same with films or certain TV.
Time is not going to wait and as humans we grow from our mistakes. I have said the wrong thing. Can I turn back and correct? Not I can’t.
Life is full of lessons and we need to forgive ourselves and stop obsessing. If you can imagine being constantly being hit on the head or anywhere with a mallet how would it feel? It would get on your nerves and that is what regrets do.
It is up to you to of how you want to keep pestering yourself. Cut yourself some slack. You can’t fix what’s gone and so why should you? Will the person you have a regret about or an incident that happened involving someone, be restless about the regret you have? Do they still talk to you?
What is it that is bugging you? Write it down. I when my son was doing some tutoring, went through my fears and past worries and why they were bugging me and it just made me come to my senses of it all and felt ten times better. I have begun to realise that somethings are meant to be, because that is how we learn about relationships, good communication, living better and building our inner self to be the better person you are and reinvent yourself and start a fresh.
No being rude to someone is not good, but I wonder how bothered they are and teaches to stop regretting and just learn. Think of all the good things you have done and how is your life now? So stop regretting and start living.
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I have felt good this year. I am enjoying journaling whilst my son is having is lesson and it has been a great resource and I do it as my first thing in my journal and I would recommend using the Journal APP I have, not sure if it is available to all phones as it was an APP that was already on my phone. By making this change has helped me to plan content, write about my life, moving on and growing from the past. I dwell a lot on the past from things I did wrong but has helped have shape in my life and “Grow”. My word for 2026. This year 2025 was “Lifestyle” and I have changed my lifestyle.
Was a bit Skeptical about the Elf on the Shelf but my son loves it and I have stopped being a Humbug.
My reading has been an amazing and walked a lot and now as it is Winter I have taken a step back for the Winter and just slowing down, but still being somewhat productive without overwhelm.
Just making one change to your routine can make such a difference. Like having more reading time. I read every morning and evening and it has been one of the greatest habits that has really been a boost and set a challenge of reading 20 books. I am on 17 and have a book on Audible that I am listen to and so is 18 so will have two books left. I have done this on Good Reads. Check out my site: https://mybooksandstories.wordpress.com/
The other change is cleaning. I do it as I go and will make sure that before each meal that I have cleared away the items used. Cleaning does not give me joy but like the results do. Learning. I have done some really good courses and been using Youtube for free training to, to build my platforms and content.
It is good to see the stars and do like a clear sky, but at the same time it is time to slow down and watch some good TV, with a nice hot meal and it is the simple pleasures that makes it different for me now. I did get depressed as I reached adult age, in the winter, but now I embrace it, by not rushing and focus on little pleasures. https://mystylewayofliving.blogspot.com/2025/11/things-that-gives-me-pleasure.html
It is good time to declutter. I do a bit a day and once I start which is the key. Less thinking, more doing and going through my things and today I wrote a list of what I want done by the end of the year and love planning for the next year, around about this time of year and embrace the new year which back at one point would get emotional and felt I wasted a year and so I make the most of the days whilst I am alive and it just simple changes, can make such a difference.
It all counts.
So I hope you are finding these blogs helpful and comforting and that it does not have to be doom and gloom.
Hello and thank you for visiting if you are new, to this blog site. I have a Youtube Channel called Financial Living, where I share How I spend and look after my money and did this because I have been reckless and in debt, but now thankfully it has all been paid off.
I no longer dread looking at my bank accounts and got rid of having a Credit card and Overdraft and use the money I have and monitoring my money has made a huge difference.
I save everyday and check my bank account everyday and today I spent no money debit as paid some bits I need such as Chewing gum, because I keep getting a dry mouth, Vitamin D, a supplement I take this time of the year, bathroom cleaner and washing up liquid.
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I hope you have a good week and soon it will Christmas. Oh boy, am I ready? Not sure but no longer bitter about it.
I will be doing my programme, Winter Wellness to help you have a better Winter as the days get dark early and can feel very bleak and I often would find I would be extra tired, but now have learned to handle it by making changes and so this will begin on this site and my other blogs: 3rd November 2025.
I have. When having an argument said something you shouldn’t have.
Take a moment to breath and go somewhere you can cool off and reflect.
People clash, its human nature and its a form of protection. It can affect the environment and escalate so do you want to put the fire out or keep it burning?
I have hit out and I am not proud of that. I find anger overwhelming, to the point I am not able to calm down, so I will leave the room or take two or so minutes, but then come back apologised and all has been right again.
It is good to have your say and give your point of view, but calling someone a nob head is not the way. Yes we want to vent and glad I have a journal and this has made a huge difference and use it for my books and looking back, realising that I lost control and I have learned from arguments and to put the smoke out, before its turned into fire.
I have looking back, laughed at myself. I remember when I was with my husband, when he was trying to give up smoking and we argued over a plate of chips and a draw. I remember saying “Have a bloody cigarette”. That wasn’t the best form of advice and should have been a lot more supportive as it can be hard to give up a habit and a lot of people smoke because it to them is calming and a break.
I felt like it was a personal attack, but no it just was that I wanted to share a plate of chips but not draw and now writing this, makes me laugh as actually I get his point.
He did when people were band from smoking in a pub, gave up smoking and he has never gone back. So often it can be that someone is fighting against a addiction or a habit. He just wasn’t in the right mindset to give up smoking. I am very good at weighing up my emotions, by thinking, “Is this going to lead to an argument and is worth venting about?” This helps me think before I speak and defuse the smoke before it turns into a fire.
No human being is perfect. Some may think they are, but noone is. Not that is some excuse to be verbally abusive. I have through habits controlled my feelings. This is journaling, walking and writing. As said weighing up. I will ask myself “How would you feel if someone said that to me?”
I dislike people who are hypocritical and have double standards. It should be one rule for all not specific people and being fair.
There have been times that I know I am right and finding myself wanting to say “Oh shut you shit bag and listen” but stopped myself and asked, “Do I want a good day or not?” and kept my thoughts to myself.
So try to stay calm and write it down. Turn it into a story, write a letter to yourself and if you can take yourself out of the situation, to defuse it before you say anything you will regret later. Try to remain in a good mindset and not lash out.
Hello it is time to post a new Cheat Sheet. They are free to download and print and post every Monday accept UK Bank Holidays and this week it is all about the Enjoyments of life.
It can be full of rollercoasters is life and you never know really what is going to happen each day. It is good to do things that help create good days and getting the most out of it, as much as possible.
It is good to go for walks. One of my colleagues on Epsom Hospital Radio does Walking Football and my brother does Walking Rugby. I like to do courses, read books and go for a coffee with my son and Swimming. The little things are just as good as the big things in life and life is about living.
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I was finding it tricky to film for my other Youtube Channels, but in the week I filmed for my channel Financial Living and listening to Henry Winkler when he did a interview once on the TV, said, “If you really want something or do something, you’ll always find a way”.
Yet if you find that you need to hold off from completing one of the areas you wanted to finish, then fine. You can add projects too, I decided because I knew it wouldn’t take long, wanted to go through my emails, to clear it out, so I as part of my Autumn Reset when through my email, get rid of spam. I do subscribe to different things, but before you know it, I’ve ended up having a thousand of emails and it can get out of control. You may find that to complete some tasks, you have to do other tasks. Life is full of challenges and so other things will crop up.
I have also been doing some training to help complete my next book. My son has not got a Secondary School Placement and I love my son, but he wants to go to Secondary school and it has been a real mission. In the meantime I am home schooling and so had to put some bits on hold.
It means adjusting because to my son, I am mum and not a teacher and why when he is at school he gets more out of being in a different environment. We are going out a lot which is a good thing and he goes to clubs at the weekend and because I do a radio show on Sunday’s have to commute and setting time to plan my show ready for Sunday.
I have been using my mornings and in the afternoons. Me and son like to ride on trains and buses, or walking various bus routes. I use that time, when travelling to think about my book, my blogs and chill watching a bit of quizzes in the afternoon. Parenting is a job. I can’t split myself in half so if somethings have to hold. Do things at your own pace and just one change a day, is still getting tasks done.
If you didn’t know I have a new book out it is called Mum&Me. It is available from Amazon, by Kindle and Paperback: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0BGNF4LNF
I also have a Vlog Channel. Taking some time off but I will be filming again in October and share my home life as a mum, writer, coach and Radio presenter: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal
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