Hello it is time to post a new Cheat Sheet. They are free to download and print and post every Monday accept UK Bank Holidays and this week it is all about the Enjoyments of life.
It can be full of rollercoasters is life and you never know really what is going to happen each day. It is good to do things that help create good days and getting the most out of it, as much as possible.
It is good to go for walks. One of my colleagues on Epsom Hospital Radio does Walking Football and my brother does Walking Rugby. I like to do courses, read books and go for a coffee with my son and Swimming. The little things are just as good as the big things in life and life is about living.
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Hello and welcome! New Start as it is Monday, once more and it is time for a new Cheat Sheet. I post these every week, to help you to live your best life and not be bogged down with tasks.
Life should be enjoyed and not a burden. It should be a blessing not a hindrance, so this week is it a list of Things to do in Autumn. They are a free printable to download and print, if you wish too.
It is getting darker early and I love the Coziness and having a nice hot bath and feel blessed being at home and having a nice autumnal meal and drink, being in some cozy clothes and just chilling watching TV or like now, on my laptop sharing tips on Happy Living.
For a while I had been getting up really early with no alarm, just relying on my body clock and not going back to bed because I’d end up having a nightmare and would feel overly tired.
Last week I was shattered and was even told I look tired and was feeling agitated and yet like as I start this blog, realised I can still read and do a bit of writing on my laptop, by not getting up super early. I would some mornings be wide awake, but by 2pm I’d feel wiped out.
I have changed my routine and still been awake early, but brush my teeth and just chill and the get up at 6am. So do successful people get up at 4am or is it a myth? A trend?
Not getting up a 4am I can still have my first cup of tea, read and be in bed and turn the light off and if I get a couple more hours of sleep, then I listen to my body and obey it.
Steven Bartlett doesn’t get up early. He never books appointments before 11am. I think it is choice and what each persons body, tells them if they are an Early Bird or a Night Owl. Yes my son is an early bird, but I want to stay in bed, then I will. It is what I feel like and what suits me as an individual.
I was going to bed early but I would be awake by midnight fighting with my tiredness, feeling wide awake taking ages to go back to sleep. So now I stay up between 9pm to 11pm and I find it works better for me.
What works for you
Yes I have heard theories about if you go to bed early you wake up earlier but like I have said, my body and mind likes to sleep when I feel actually tired enough and I like to spend time doing a bit of writing in the early evening and then watch some TV and that is what works for me.
When some people do night shifts they still have to sleep and one of my uncles did that for years and so it is what suits a persons lifestyle. They still need to eat and stay hydrated, stay clean and have some winding down time.
So if you want to get up at 4am and it suits you, great, if not then do what works for you. You are your own boss and your choice, going on your lifestyle and what helps you to sleep well, to function well.
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Hello! If you are new here then each year in September I do a Autumn Reset. I go through a number of items to complete, to kick start the change of, a new season, to help kick start the new Academic year and started doing this two years ago. I have done a printable to help you, please click here: Autumn Reset Worksheet 2025
I was going through what I do each day and I find filling up my mind, can get a bit tiresome and so I avoid these when doing a Reset:
Try not to fill up my mind with too much, by not being on my laptop all day, put my phone somewhere out of easy reach and read once I have had a break from screens and watched a bit of light TV, along with being quiet.
Not taking breaks. I find it hard to write all day and like to do it short spells. So will take a break by washing up dishes, cleaning and tidying. One of my items is to complete the first draft of another book. So far It has gone well.
Not doing a recap of what I have done in the day. Not necessarily writing it down, but in my mind and helps to see what I have done and realize I have done more than, what I have realised.
It is good to not wear yourself down. It is good to have a few things done, its not about how many things you can do. It is about the result post Autumn Reset.
Go through how it has made you feel, e.g. Completing an Essay, completing a room makeover, cleaned your entire house or like me, completed a draft of a book you are writing.
A recap is good to address your feelings whether good or bad, measuring your progress. I talk about doing a Mind Map, because it is motivating and it directs you.
Then going through, example: You’ve written a paragraph of the Essay. How many words does it have to be? When is the deadline? To get my book finished I know if I use my Mornings and evenings, where I know I have a good amount of time to write, even if it is for 10 minutes, I will complete the revised first draft to then start editing. My aim is to write,’ 40,000 words and I am doing some training to help me.
If you are joining me and you have tips on getting the projects completed, for this years Autumn Reset, then please share in the comments section below.
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I was finding it tricky to film for my other Youtube Channels, but in the week I filmed for my channel Financial Living and listening to Henry Winkler when he did a interview once on the TV, said, “If you really want something or do something, you’ll always find a way”.
Yet if you find that you need to hold off from completing one of the areas you wanted to finish, then fine. You can add projects too, I decided because I knew it wouldn’t take long, wanted to go through my emails, to clear it out, so I as part of my Autumn Reset when through my email, get rid of spam. I do subscribe to different things, but before you know it, I’ve ended up having a thousand of emails and it can get out of control. You may find that to complete some tasks, you have to do other tasks. Life is full of challenges and so other things will crop up.
I have also been doing some training to help complete my next book. My son has not got a Secondary School Placement and I love my son, but he wants to go to Secondary school and it has been a real mission. In the meantime I am home schooling and so had to put some bits on hold.
It means adjusting because to my son, I am mum and not a teacher and why when he is at school he gets more out of being in a different environment. We are going out a lot which is a good thing and he goes to clubs at the weekend and because I do a radio show on Sunday’s have to commute and setting time to plan my show ready for Sunday.
I have been using my mornings and in the afternoons. Me and son like to ride on trains and buses, or walking various bus routes. I use that time, when travelling to think about my book, my blogs and chill watching a bit of quizzes in the afternoon. Parenting is a job. I can’t split myself in half so if somethings have to hold. Do things at your own pace and just one change a day, is still getting tasks done.
If you didn’t know I have a new book out it is called Mum&Me. It is available from Amazon, by Kindle and Paperback: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0BGNF4LNF
I also have a Vlog Channel. Taking some time off but I will be filming again in October and share my home life as a mum, writer, coach and Radio presenter: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal
Doing a Autumn Reset, helps to Reshape everything. If you have tasks that are unfinished and tasks that you’ve not had a chance to do, because of the school holidays then now is the right time and focus on few things and what is the most important to you right now.
If you are having a make over in your home then why not invite friends or family over to help. As a kid whenever we decorated, our home, one of my cousins would help.
Once you go through the items that you want to complete but, like if you decide that the colour paint you wanted has changed, then change it and get a paint chart. One of mine is filming for my other channels. So going to arrange filming in another room.
Perhaps do some filming outside the home and want to improve them.
If there are items that you not able to change or work on, then fine you can go back to it at another time.
I go through what I can do rather than what I can’t do and go through what is the first steps can I take to change the areas of my life that isn’t working and often you may find that you have to start over again.
If it is relationship and your not seeing enough of each other, set a day aside one a month or once a week to go out. A change of environment can do wonders. My husband and I would book a day before Christmas and go to the Southbank, as they often have stalls, then visit Borough Market and have some Winter Cider or Mulled Wine.
Or you want to see a member of your family more often. Find their contact details and make the effort to call them and send a text to ask if they can chat and it is simple tasks that can really help get your juices flowing, to do such tasks, as we can get so stuck with life that we forget the things that can really help you get back on track if you feel your not socialising enough.
I tried many ways to do regularly exercise after I had my son. I started to get up early whilst my husband and son was a sleep and work out. Now I workout in the afternoons and often my son will join me, this is a great time to set some Autumn Goals to help with doing an Autumn Reset. I found that it is the right time and do about 5 to 10 minutes. Not everyday, but twice a week or so.
Once you set it out you find it is easy to Reshape and the one thing I find useful is doing a Mind map. I do this often and it really helps make sure I am on the right path, to finally get projects finished.
Have a schedule, be flexible if other things crop up and why not do a family reset if you want to use the Autumn Reset to spend more time with your kids. So get back into having a weekly family meal and now the schools are opened it means homework, so create if you join me in doing an Autumn reset, do a homework plan so that it is done on time and not rushed and have a family meeting to go through planning with your kids, of getting homework completed.
There are no rules to it and you can start at the beginning of Autumn or during. Ir is up to you and if it helps you, keep a diary or a journal to reflect on how it is going and if you finding something difficult and adjust as you do This year’s Autumn Reset.
I glad for your feedback and if you have tips on doing a Autumn Reset then please share. You can write in the comment section below. You can subscribe if you want to be notified when I post on this site and will never miss one.
If you missed my first post then click here: Autumn Reset
Welcome it is time for my AUTUMN RESET and been so looking forward to it.
It is time to get those projects finished, setting up for the next season and taking time out.
I won’t be vlogging my reset and focus on my other two Channels, which is part of what I want to do for this Autumn reset. I will do have vlogs to upload from Summer and then I will be taking a month off once those vlogs go out.
I do have a printable. It is free to download and print and to help you if you want to join me in this RESET.
I will working on a Book I am writing, completing my Son and I’s room and doing a declutter and been doing this during the summer but want to complete it and have more space.
Does your past making you feel ashamed? In my life I have not always been kind and had dark thoughts, but I know that this has made me put them to bed as thoughts are what they are and didn’t carry out anything that would have been harmful and often it just I quick thought, in the moment because if I didn’t say anything and been able to see the lighter side of life.
My brother and I never got on as kids. We would argue and fight a lot, but now we are fine. If you constantly feel shameful then what specifically is making you feel that way?
I thought I was being unkind to a girl I work with and apologised and she didn’t have any ideas as to what I was talking about. So, I know longer felt shame and so talk. Let people know how you feel and speak to a psychologist, therapist or a Social Worker, if your thoughts of the past are haunting you and was as bad as what you thought?
Stop giving yourself such a hard time. Everyone has a past. Done the wrong thing or said something that was taken out of context. I remember when working in a Call Centre, one of the new people I spoke to I couldn’t see there face. I thought it was a man. I was chatting about it in the Staff Canteen and she comes over and says “Apparently I sound like a man” and she thought one of us (chatting to some of colleagues) called her a Cow, which we did not and she wanted to hit me, in particular. I felt dreadful and she spoke to one of the managers and I told it was an innocent conversation, and said I am sorry and I did feel ashamed, but it didn’t stop me from talking it made me be more self aware and next time I should have introduced myself and asked who the person was as I not met them and I not into gossiping.
In the end this was resolved she didn’t hit me, I didn’t keep on and the issue was solved, ,so I moved on.
Thinking of the past can drain you and be full of regret and not able to move on, but time has a different idea. Do you want to be happy with who you are? Take it one day at a time and address your feelings. I was so sad when my Nan died. She was my last grandparent and kept forgetting and would have dreams about her still being alive and it really changed a lot. I had a friend who lived by her and so whenever I could would pop in, I did. Suddenly I couldn’t do that anymore.
She would not want me, to not get on my my life. She lived to old age and it was her time.
My parents was getting divorced, I was in a very demanding job, but loved the social life. I then changed jobs but I hated it and it was the wrong move. I then decided I would follow my gut and had to be selfish and do what I felt would lead me to following my dreams. It lead me to a job where, it was a culture shock and what I needed and no longer regret the decisions I made and did what I was hopefully lead me to building a life of my own and it happened.
You never know what path to choose sometimes. It makes me think of a game of chess. What is the right move? Will I need to move my Queen or not? Reflect, write and leave it there. Take a step forward and trust your gut.
When I look back on events now, I loved the people met, good and bad. I like the journeys I have taken and will keep living and not feel ashamed. It happened, noone died so it is time to let the shame go and create more abundance and self belief.
Originally when I wrote this down it was about Body Image, but I now realise it is not just about that. It is all to do with how you treat yourself. This is not treating yourself with a box of chocolates, I mean being verbally kind to yourself and in your mind.
I am in a good place now. I have changed my thoughts of myself and my life in general. There are times in the mornings where I see my hair is all messy, I see unwanted hair growth but also, my room or home is chaotic and have no sense of, Is this it. Is this what my life looks like?
I have just come back from Wimbledon with my mum and step dad and I have case full of clothes, bag full of my notebooks and journals and I have believe it or not I did a declutter. So I am working on it. I will spend time tidying, unpacking and know I can get it back into shipshape.
This is free to download. It is reprogramming your thought patterns. I now make sure I read each day, because it slows me down and feel calm in the mornings now. I will have breakfast and go for morning walk. I do a bit of writing each day. These have really helped with stress and anxiety.
What one thing do you want to change in the mornings?
Write down in the printable or notebook of What is the first thing you in the morning. It used to be, for me get up, watch Youtube and before getting my son ready for school and it became a habit that would not help my day, because I would be lazy. It should have been to get my son ready for school. My son was close by, but had to get my priorities right and me and my husband would argue, because of it and if it were the other way around, I wouldn’t have been happy.
There was a time where I would come home angry. I was working in a Call Center, where people would call in, not happy, because I worked as a technical advisor/call agent and would go home and would bring what happened each day, home.
So are you have a lot of arguments?
Is a job, sleep or a relationship?
Is the food that you eat?
It is making sense of it all and creating a picture of yourself and your life and what do you want out of life?
Who do you spend time with?
I make sure that my son is okay and say good morning to him, have breakfast together, read and make sure my bed and his, is made and that my life is functional and do the things in my life that will help me grow and everyone in my life grow. Checking in on them and make the effort to have a good day, facing challenges but not making them stop me, from living.
Not having too many commitments, but that I have some social interaction and my son does too. I like to have a day off from everything and last Tuesday had a proper lazy day. I still worked on some content but stayed in and it felt so good.
I wish you all the happiness in the world. Life can be joyous and the image of it. Feel good about yourself. I write another google blog site, called Building Self Confidence – The Ugly Duckling: https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/
I really hope you find my Life Coaching Programme helpful and please give me your feedback and what would like to see in my next one.
What is coming up?
My Autumn Reset. Where I will be working on various areas and getting ready for the new season.
Everyone can build a castle 