Category Archives: having bad days

You Aren’t born to be good at everything but a life where you learn everyday finding out what you are good at

23 Wednesday Apr 2025

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There was a time where I took things for granted and not opening my eyes to the world. The moments I spent with my grandparents, forgetting that one day they will be gone and like with my dad, not realising that one day I will have to go it alone without him. I am very aware now that, the small moments are precious and everyday should be lived. My life is not all put together, there is still so much out there for me to learn and not an expert of laying things to rest, and still have no sense of direction and still struggle with socialising, but I love the time I spend with my family, my son and he has really taught me a lot.

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He lives in the moment and see that we are not meant to be good at everything, but why each day should teach you something. Example: Learning how from others, like my mum, my husband and from other parents. My husband today got my son to help cook and make his own breakfast. I felt a little begrudged., but that’s my own insecurity and I like cooking for my son, but if he asks to help then I need to not get nervous about it, and its my duty as a parent, as I see it, to teach him life skills, to have him learn to cook but I am no master chef so I have had to learn to cook too.

When I make a nice meal I do feel so proud, when I have not burnt the scrambled egg or invented a meal that’s gone well, feel like I could get a Michelin star for parent cooking and hope my son asks for beans on toast on some days.

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I do dwell on the passed and I still remember as a kid where I got in trouble with touching someone in the flats I lived, car, when all the other kids were doing the same, but the girl who told her mum did it because she had decided not to like me. I still remember how I felt about that, but what can I do, I can’t go back but use it to learn and there will always be someone who doesn’t like you and will never see it from your opinion, as many, as learned, in customer service, have already decided what they want to hear and so when they don’t it is a travesty, to them. Your their enemy and everyone should bow at their feet and I am no, you have no morals and learned that there isn’t good in everyone and people who just want to hate on others.

I am not here to change the world and what is important to me and what direction do I want to go.

Life is full of surprises example I never thought I’d be doing this writing a blog and making videos. Dancing was my skill I naturally had and then playing football. I love coaching and teaching and was good at training others and so why I created this blog because I have find life a struggle but now I embrace it and it is taken a lot to get here, to feel this way.

I am learning that I am no rugby player, when I go to kick the ball and completely miss it and when my son wants me to do be on all fours to pretend to do a scrum, how the Astroturf hurts my knees. but its all about doing your best and my son gets annoyed with me if it takes me ten times to kick the ball that he can catch. Then he wants me to tackle him and go and get the ball. I do it because I love my son and it builds my steps and saves an argument. Yes I know I should lay down the law but makes it hard and then I am having tantrum.

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When it comes to singing my son will tell me to shut up and wish I had a voice like Celine Dion and be able to bale out The Power Of Love and then visioning myself as a member of the Bangles or Cyndi Lauper. But I now work on radio and love it and getting compliments of the music I am playing, so I am never going to get a record deal so getting to play it, is just as good.

At the same time I enjoy it and that is the biggest lesson. If you don’t enjoy it, then stop feeling you have to continue. We aren’t here to enjoy everything. You’re still a human and will have dislikes and that is okay.

This blog is part of my Change Your Life training to enjoy life more and to love your life and yourself. I did my first video for it and so check this out. It is about Coming last: https://youtu.be/xOfn9eS8hxU

I will be filming another one and is completely free. Please check out my Pinterest where you will find my other blogs for this training and please give me some feedback as you are what makes it grow: https://uk.pinterest.com/thetypicalLondongal/everyone-can-build-a-castle/making-changes-to-your-life/

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Managing Your Life With Different Systems for better Productivity.

22 Tuesday Apr 2025

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I have a new set up now and going to show in a vlog and it is to stop me from getting neck ache that I often get when working on my laptop. Sometimes you have to try a different system to find out what works for you. Finding out what is more productive to the way you work.

Picture taken out having a coffee editing my book I am editing with a coffee and great way to stay productive and not spending too much time in one place.

Changing the environment so you need use a different area of a room for better lighting and have a better system where you can work more effectively. Having a desk lamp if you share the room with your spouse, so he can still watch TV, whilst you are on the computer and not getting into each others way.

You may find working in the kitchen is better and you have all your to do’s on a notebook ready, written the night before, rather than on your computer. I like to write down my plans aswell as using online tools, it is good to have it as a back up and also I find it goes into my head better and make notes on my phone when I am, out and about so not having to carry a lot. Well still working on that. I like to spend time writing, planning and reading, in a coffee shop, just nice to be out but carry my current notebook, diary and book I am editing.

Playing music by making good playlist or a place you can throughout the day, to have some silence. Too much noise can really clog up my head so like to turn off the TV and not get disrupted. Have base where you can read for half hour or where you can do some exercise and workout in your garden whilst the kids are at school.

I see people going out for a walk around the park and taking their dogs for a walk and I like doing that aswell and walking though commons, such as Epsom Common or Wimbledon. I now do parkrun and it is really good fun but see many families not doing parkrun still having a morning stroll and it is so good. I enjoy walking and I post a lot of my walking on my Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/typicallondongal/

Have your kids do some reading and writing each morning once all the breakfast items have been put away, or have them read to each other, whilst you get ready for the day. When they return from school have a place or system of putting their bags in a place where they can unpack and pack for the next day. Order their school dinners every Monday rather than later in the week where you are likely to forget. This is from experience and reduce the amount you have to think about.

The one system I do is whilst making myself a coffee once my son has gone to school, is put away the breakfast items and that I am dressed before my son is in the morning and once my son has had breakfast is dressed for school. We have all his uniform set out and is ironed which my husband takes care of.

It is good to have a system when it comes to daily chores. This morning I cleared the Living room windowsill into my bedroom and have made changes to my room too to have more hanging space for my caps and bags.

It is really has made a difference to how I feel about my environment, to feel good about myself and my life. I am today sorting out my Pinterest and organising it a little better and can be added to your system by putting all your vision boards and plans on there and is a great resource for planning. Please check out this board of Planning ideas: https://uk.pinterest.com/thetypicalLondongal/planning-your-life/

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

New Cheat Sheet for the Week: When Your Feeling Under the Weather

14 Monday Apr 2025

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As it is spring it can often mean we can get Hayfever which can lead to an infection. My son and myself suffer with Hayfever and my son has had it pretty bad and was breathing really heavily so had to seek medical help.

Just because it is Spring doesn’t mean your free from getting sick and so this new Cheat Sheet for the week, is Giving tips on what to do when your feeling under the weather.

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These are free to download and print and post them every Monday.

I really hope that you find them useful.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Breaking Barriers and The Fear of accomplishing

04 Friday Apr 2025

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Last Saturday completing 5KM doing Parkrun. I kept thinking about it but too the plunge and now really enjoy even though I get nervous every time.

This is part a series of blogs to Help you make changes to your life and will be for the Month of April on this website along with some videos on my Educational Youtube channel.

Here is the first blog.

Every Friday when I know I am going to be doing Parkrun on Saturday, I get the usual anxious feelings in my stomach. It is nerves and find it hard to think of anything else, until I have done it. It is breaking a barrier of what I know is challenging but know by doing the Parkrun I am going to feel on top of the world.

As a kid I remember watching Samantha Fox she was a page three girl, who poised topless on in the Sun Newspaper everyday. She had already been singing but got the page three girl job, only to cross the barrier once again and her debut single “Touch Me” was released in 1986 and was a success.

Kylie Minogue had sung as a kid but was firstly known for her acting and then became a pop sensation and both Samantha Fox and Kylie Minogue have had brilliant careers, in music. Gary Lineker who was a brilliant Striker for clubs and England, being part of the famous, 1990 World Cup squad, now is known from his presenting on Match Of the Day and now going to be leaving. Many may not remember his goals for Tottenham, playing for Barcelona and playing for England.

I went from hating P.E at school when we had to do running and took part in the Great North Run and made me change my mindset of seeing what I could accomplish if I crossed a barrier that I never entered my brain to do, a half marathon?

Have faith in yourself and yes your fear can contribute you in not crossing a barrier, because of what if this happened and that? You will never know unless you get up and give it a try. If you find it is not for you and noone got hurt then that is fine. You have to challenge yourself to see what you are capable of and think “What if it is a success?”. Give it a try.

I love Strictly Come Dancing. Watching Chris McCausland dance and he was amazing and Rose Ayling-Ellis. Not saying that because of their disability, but the fact that they didn’t restrict themselves and opened our eyes to “Its anybody’s competition” not matter of what, may be a barrier to some but them not and having self belief.

So break a barrier and see what you can do and accomplish. It’s never too late and will be writing a blog on this too.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Weekly Cheat: Having a Reset. Making a Fresh Start

24 Monday Mar 2025

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Hello! It is the start of a new week and today I have been updating my google calendar and lists on Notion, getting tasks that are Overdue. This weeks Cheat Sheet is tips on Having a Fresh Start to having a Reset.

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They are free to download and print. If you’d like to be notified of when I post on this site then you can do so my subscribing.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Self Development: If you had a mirror showing Your life what would you like to see?

21 Friday Feb 2025

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If you had a mirror where you would picture your life what would you see? What would it say to you or show?

Would it make you feel happy or sad? There was a time I hated my own reflection. I wouldn’t try on clothes in a fitting room. When I was at school we didn’t have cubicles but one big changing room and would feel so uncomfortable. The same at Primary school and would get remarks from my fellow pupils. I hated having boobs. I was not ready for teenage hood. Mother nature decided it was time for me to form early and I didn’t like it.

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I do write a blog about Self Confidence: https://mydailythougthsandfeelings.blogspot.com/2025/01/how-friday-nights-have-changed.html

Now I am comfortable in looking the mirror and see someone who has lived and got plenty to give. It has taken a lot to see myself in a positive light and my life too. I loved going to dancing school as a kid. Now, I like that I can share my life. I found growing up daunting, because the way you looked mattered. I didn’t want to be trendy. I wanted to be happy with what I saw. So I began to get fit and take on challenges like running and walking events. This made me see, what I was capable of and feel proud of myself.

What challenges would you undertake? What changes would you do, to feel good when looking in the mirror and be proud of yourself and write down how you feel.

I was fed up with giving myself such a hard time. I had to change my mindset. Being healthy is what I need, not a hourglass figure. All bodies are beautiful. I remember going to rugby. There was a guy who I didn’t like the look of. When I learned he had a heart of gold, I realized I was being unkind. Since he was nice and was a good laugh, that was important. So, I worked on my own stereotypical mind.

We have kept in touch via social media. I have not heard from him for a while. Yet, it also taught me that men and women can be friends without it ending in romance. I have male and female friends and I love my friends and my family. They have been my teachers of life and am grateful of those I have met and still in contact with.

Being a good friend, mother, sister, daughter, and aunt is important. I love watching my nieces and my son grow. My son got an award at school. We went to a Christmas Event at his school last year. We also went to see an art exhibition he did at school. This year, he will be going to his third Residential trip.

I am enjoying my life with my son, friends, and family. This is something I would like to see in a mirror. I have got back into walking and joined Parkrun. I am registered to do Race For Life. I am working on radio now and have fully recovered from my Mental Health Battle. I am writing more books and blogs and expanding my Youtube channels. I enjoying meeting people and about other peoples lives and what they have gone through.

So now spend some time considering this question. What would you see if you were able to see your life in the mirror?

What does the future look like? Who is in this image and what do you look like? Are they your dreams or goals?

There is more I want out of my life. Keep your goals to yourself. As Terri Savelle Foy says, what you do behind the scenes has a bigger impact. You don’t have to tell the world just yet. Just follow your heart and mind to help your self-belief. Once you reached a goal, then tell the world. My husband didn’t tell anyone when he did his driving test. He failed the first one, so he retook it without saying anything and passed.

Set a plan and give yourself a target of when you want to achieve. Do you see that in the mirror? Does the reflection you see of yourself changed? What area are you going to look at first?

Take some time to answer. Put your list of goals with targets somewhere visible. Make sure you go through of what you see. I have started to put collages on Pinterest. I learned how by watching a video by Rachellea https://www.youtube.com/@rachelleea. Now, I am obsessed with it.

I set goals in my journal and plan away.

Review the goals you have already achieved. Consider the ones you want to set into play next. Yes, there will be hurdles. When you see the results, you’ll see that they are part of the plan. You can build a different, happy, and successful life and then talk about it and keep setting them.

What is the first steps are you going to set. When I started running and entered to doing the Great north run I didn’t just take on the 13.1 miles, I worked up to it by doing different runs and started of by walking and building up to run and now I am trying to get back to it by doing Parkrun and looking forward to doing the Race For life in June.

If you’d like to sponsor me then you, check out my JustGiving page: https://www.justgiving.com/page/carrie-challoner-10?utm_medium=FR&utm_source=CL

I will be filming my last to videos for my Self Development training next week as it is half term and so been tricky to film. When I do I will post.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Self Development: Making Life Changes

13 Thursday Feb 2025

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This is something I ask in my printable. Check out the first blog I wrote sharing the printable for this Self Development training I am doing for the Month of February. https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/2025/02/03/self-development-training-begins/

Here is my first Video for this training and talk about Self Neglect. Not getting dressed, not brushing your teeth and it is not saying that your doing anything wrong, I am writing about myself when I would become depressed, I didn’t do those things, knowing that if I did I would feel better and so I had to get out of bed and live.

Life is full of a challenges and I have learned to take in the feelings, then think what can I do that will help me through those thoughts and listen to the positive side of the brain. Life is full of influences, like when we watch the news and hear of another stabbing and it has made me more determined to not allow it stop me from embracing my city, which is London and thinking of he good things. There is always going to be good and bad, but having a good breakfast, reading and listening to podcast can help me not to be affected but enjoy life as you don’t know when its going to end, and so I watch things that bring me joy not sadness and why I started fundraising for good causes.

I share my challenges I faced and not being happy about myself and my life. I felt like my life was boring when actually that is not true. I had a good childhood I just struggled because of not feeling good enough at school. Now see that I had a good holidays and did dancing. I had proper grandparents, relatives and friendships that have lasted so long.

I began to make Life Changes, getting fit and active and not dwelling on things that have gone wrong, but what I learned from those mistakes and not allow anxiety to control my life.

I will be making another video next week. These videos will be on this site forever and if you want to be notified when post on this site to subscribe.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Introduction To My Self Development Training

04 Tuesday Feb 2025

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Hello! Please check my blog where I posted a printable for this training: Self development

So there will be three videos for this training. Please check my video where I share details of what you can use, for the 3 sections of this training. So in this training we will cover for example: What is Self Development, Suffering with anxiety, then section 2, Changing my financial choices, an area I have had to work on and planning, example: Setting up your day.

Here is the introduction to this training:

This training is completely free and please give me feedback or ask any questions training. You can write into the comment section below blog to do so.

I am someone who has battled through life dealing with insecurities, not feeling good enough. I would be so critical of myself and so I had to make changes, especially as I grew into adulthood. I thought that by then would feel better about myself but no and they grew even bigger. I feel better once I finished school, which for a while it did. I liked working. Yet had some not so nice jobs and was fired by some of them an lost my confidence.

I have become fed up of allowing those time to bully me. I knew to move forward in my life I had to feel better about myself and my life.

Then I hit rock bottom when I thought that there was someone being hurt, but there was other things going on too. I was finding motherhood hard, felt isolated and had this inner fear that I had never felt before. I went to hospital and found that I was hearing voices and diagnosed with Psychosis and got home help. I began to feel like I had no energy to do anything. It was like being on a wheel that I couldn’t get off from. I spent time in a mental health hospital and recovered and wanted to help others with their mental health and wellbeing. It can feel you are in a dark place with no light.

I want you to love who you are and not be so unkind or resentful of yourself and start living and living beyond your needs. Life doesn’t have to be a battle, but be the best it could ever be, by making changes in the different areas and changing your mindset.

I hope you find this training helpful and share your story, if you have have found life hard and support one another.

Many thanks,

Carrie X

Self Development Training Begins

03 Monday Feb 2025

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It is a new week and today my Self Development training begins. I will be filming for my Educational Youtube Channel and I am really looking forward to it and hope it will help follow your dreams and have a life you love.

For me Self Development is simple. Change what you are not happy with. Go through the passed but in a way where your not dwelling but learning. Learning what you have done that turned out to be the best thing you have ever did, so far in your life and what didn’t work out. What is holding you back.

It can be that you failed your driving test. So the first thing is to reflect what happened. Was you driving too fast, you stopped when you shouldn’t have or your nerves distracted you. I made a mistake yesterday where I was playing a song on my radio show and accidentally turned it off but it was okay as I rectified it, reflected well I know that I was rushing and needed to take my time, but the rest of the show went according to plan. Your going to slip up, that’s life. The worst thing to do is allowing it to dominate. Not moving on.

I have created a free Printable which you can download and will give you the details of what the training will be covering.

I will be posting three videos for this training each week and can use it not just for February but throughout your life.

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It will be three sections and a conclusion. What you will need, which is basically your time, if you want to write things down and a drink whilst you watch and listen to my training for this Self Development training and please if you want to give me your feedback, then please do.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Winter Wellness: Good Practices

14 Tuesday Jan 2025

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It is now the 14th January 2025. I have already started to do Good Practices like reading every day and training myself on my various interests. I am building my knowledge to extend my online platforms and social media posts. I hope these efforts will boost my online content. They will help me get the most out of the online tools available.

One of the book I have read and written a book Review on My Books And Stories.

Studying once a week can be a good practice. It is true, yes, “We Learn Everyday.” I like to spend time learning from self-published authors and finance. I also enjoy learning about good books to read, beauty, fashion, skincare, and organization.

I build my fitness subconsciously by walking and using dumbbells. Also housework. This morning, I put some clothes away in my closet and tidied the breakfast ware. I went through my notion planner. I am finding different ways to work towards the life I want. Have more experiences that help me to feel good and ready for each day, month, and year.

I have Chosen my word for the year. This has really helped encourage me to take on new challenges. Working on radio is challenging. It is very technical, and you need to have good attention to detail and I am loving it. I am glad I applied and did not allow my inner critic to talk me out of it.

Each day I will journal. This really helps clear my thoughts, even if I write just one or two sentences. It helps me to have a better mindset. Writing it down puts my thoughts, whether good or bad, into perspective.

Cleansing and looking after my skin and body. I need to control what I because it can affect my mood. In winter, I don’t feel like eating fruit, but I eat plenty of vegetables. I’m starting to take my supplements again, which helps with my immune system. It also supports me during that time of the month by affecting my thoughts and feelings.

Having Good Practices can help with getting through the colder days. They can also aid us financially when you can’t afford electric or gas. This strategy makes you focus on survival. I have had financial struggles because finding work has been tough. I was made redundant. Then, there was Lockdown, which had a huge impact on everyone. I was working in Childcare. The nursery where I was a Bank Staff member closed. Because of this, I was furloughed. Then my husband changed his job, which was fine. He must make sure he has a stable living. Still, the agreement I had with the Nursery was that I worked up to 6pm. I couldn’t do this, and I was mentally struggling. Now that I have financial stability, I check my bank account every day. I control what comes in and out and paid off my debt. These actions have helped me get back on the ladder of building my life. I am doing voluntary work now for Epsom Hospital Radio as mentioned. I would like to do more and build up my income.

I hope these blogs helps you to succeed. That means building the relationship you have with yourself. Follow your hearts and dreams by staying in some days. We joined my son and I, in doing a Parkrun. It was a good way to meet people. I received financial advice and support. This was during my time in a Mental Health Hospital. I had terrible anxiety and didn’t want to go out and wanted to hide away. I got back on my feet, and so can you. Plan and make changes to your life by doing Good Practices. So lets support each other as we all succeed.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X