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Life Coaching/Being strong and guided

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Hello this another Life Coaching video as part of my Life Coaching programme, “2022 Project”, helping you to have a happier life and a year.

To get to grips with your life, it is good to be strong and guided. This time last year I was in a Mental Health hospital and wished I had known about these places as I would have checked myself in, as like many I found the lockdowns we had, was effecting my mental health, by not being able to go out and explore, and I love walking and visiting different places, but due to Lockdown I couldn’t.

  1. Develop your understanding of what is good in your life and why and what is not, and do you want to be good or the bad?
  2. Never Promise if you can’t deliver, because there is such a thing as false promises and when we don’t follow through we feel failure. Doing is better than promising.
  3. Develop a life that is personal to you. So now I am back walking again, long distances and as soon as I see people running, I feel I am not doing enough, yet walking is just as good and so don’t do things just because of other people but what will benefit you
  4. Get in touch with your spirituality. I have had a tough nine years where I allowed my mental health dictate my life and not getting in touch with myself and so began praying again, because, for me that helps and I listen to my soul and gut rather than my heart and mind
  5. Stop comparing. I should hold a reward for this because I am guilty as sin. I have learnt and I do what suits me and love myself, rather than looking at someone else and feel inadequate
  6. Creating different systems. This came from watching Mel Robbins Reset, check it out, and if you want to remember something like a pair of shoes for walking, I put them out so I can slip them on and go. Being a parent I would make sure I had items I could grab and go, as hate forgetting. Sorry what was that, I said, I don’t like forgetting, so leave items in full view so I know I will remember
  7. Create good patterns. I now make sure I set an alarm in the mornings, to make sure I have a good sleep pattern, as 4 hours sleep which I used to sleep for, did me no good and so I now go to bed between 8 and 9pm and wake up by 8:30am. I don’t have lunch until I go over to my son’s house to wait for him to return from school and stops me snacking and I love reading my book whilst travelling, as i learn a lot this way
  8. Give back what others have given you. I do this by thanking the bus driver for taking me safely to my last stop, I will buy nice cards and presents for family and what I do need to do is remember to write thank you cards, as I always forget and so will make an effort to do this, and feeling bad from not doing so.
  9. Get rid of anger by making changes in your life. Example hating your job, and feel you don’t connect with the people you work with. Look for a new place to work that has a better atmosphere. I had jobs like this, when working for a computer company, and there was a lot of back stabbing and felt so uncomfortable so I left, and followed my dream to work at a Holiday camp and finally got the chance, to leave my old life in London and Surrey for the south coast and was a brilliant experience.
  10. Make yourself be heard, Staying silent never helps and so set boundaries, making it clear of what they are. and stand your ground. This is not contradicting number 9, as you can do this to prevent anger, but just sitting and talking to people and teach others to do the same. Sitting having a conversation about what upsets us, rather than a shouting match.

It is all about keeping your head held high and to realise your value, and that you have a part to play in this world just like everyone else.

I have filmed for my Youtube channel: Typical London Gal, of some Life Coaching videos so go and check these out, this too and creating a board on Pinterest too: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/thetypicalLondongal/2022-project-life-coaching-tools-and-information/

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching/Holding Yourself Back

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Are you worried about rushing into things, like taking a promotion at work?

You’d like to go for it but something is holding you back.

Evaluate and write down the fears and take time to go through your worries and concerns, and what would help you overcome these fears you are having.

  • You may be thinking would I have to do extra hours?
  • Would I be able to earn more money?
  • Would it require working on different days unlike what I do now?
  • Would I cope with the promotion and am I capable of leading a team?
  • Perhaps you want to write a book, but you feel you are incapable and that you feel you can’t compete with other writers.

Use these fears to push yourself into gear and be in the mindset that YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!

Life is full of chances to change your life, for example I have unknown to me got more followers on Pinterest and it meant adding more content to the pins that I have worked on and its building and building yourself that you need to focus on. Facing your fears of what is stopping you,

THE NEED TO BE DEALT WITH!

Just start by writing and answering the above questions.

  • Begin to picture yourself writing the book or taking the promotion you really want to go for, and write one thing that would push you forward.
  • If you want to write a book, start by jotting down notes and your ideas. Imagine yourself writing the book, picture the scene of the book, like you would when watching a movie.
  • Start building and putting together the reason why you want to go for the promotion or write a book how will it improve you life?
  • Perhaps you feel you can’t write a book because you don’t read books, then there is no time like the present to begin reading books. It really helps when putting your own book together, and finding the style that works for you.

If you get a promotion and your worried that the relationship with your colleagues are gonna change towards you, then,

  • sit them down and have a meeting about it, even if it is one to one
  • tell them your plans in what things you want to help your colleagues with,
  • how the relationship with them will grow so there are no barriers between you and them.

Who around you inspires you?

  • It could be a friend
  • a family member or
  • someone you see on the TV,
  • what they bring to the table that you like
  • how can you implement their way of being into your own.

You can be inspired by other people, without feeling jealousy and begrudging. I want to see people do well, and if you support them they will do the same. It may take time but if you know what it is you want in life and know how this person makes you feel, then follow their path, not copy, but what things they teach you that you can add to your life for you to be just a successful.

I feel inspired listening to Celine Dion, and love her music and she went through a transition where she learned to speak English, had teeth surgery and altered her image, because Rene who was her manager and then became her husband, knew that for her to be in music and not be mocked by the press she would need changes that will help her grow as an artist and now sells billion records all over the world.

I have now changed my habits and implemented new ones:

  • I always make sure I have breakfast
  • Go walking and playing football and walks with my son
  • I read books whilst travelling to and from my sons home
  • Have night off on Saturdays and being away from my phone
  • Spend time doing colouring
  • Sunday is my training day where I will watch training videos on Youtube like Sara Cannon and Natalia Leigh who do videos about their life as self published authors
  • Keep tabs on my finances and making sure any bills due are paid and save as much as possible

It all adds to push yourself confidence and perhaps you feel you need more education to go for the promotion, and speak your superior as I did this working for an entertainments company where I would book tickets for people wanting to go to visit theme parks and I was struggling to remember the details I need to check to book tickets and so I spoke to my coach who gave me further training.

If you don’t ask you don’t get.

And be your own teacher to build your knowledge and make a time or day to do some self training if you knowledge is not up to scratch and will help push you forward to going for that promotion and never feel you can’t compete, because YES YOU CAN!

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching blog/5 Tips on How to spend time to look after yourself and get rid of the stress and anxiousness

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When life is full it can feel like a massive weight on your shoulder and it becomes overbearing. We can get lost in tones of to do’s and not achieving anything, and bogged down.

Please check my new life coaching video: Talking about Anxiety and how I deal with it.

So this blog is all about, How to spend time to look after yourself and get rid of the stress and anxiousness.

  1. Spent more time looking after you, rather than other people. Self care is a must, and this can be whatever you want. I when wanting to be quiet do colouring in and you can get colouring books which helps with mindfulness and a great way to just be on your own and putting yourself first
  2. Spend sometime putting together some family time, where you all sit down and chat. I often will spend time with my son, talking and watching the planes go over and will make a must that I check with my son how he is and if he has had a good day at school. He often doesn’t share that much, but when not prompted he will tell me. Chatting with your family can really be a good way to talk about any worries you and they may have, and send a message and arrange a time to sit and meet with family
  3. If you are contacted by someone you don’t want to see, but you feel that you should, take time to have space and like above chat with them about it. If they don’t want to listen then you can decide if they are good in your life or aren’t
  4. Keep a notebook where you can practice Affirmations. This has helped me a lot, because looking back I have been so hard on myself and felt like it is me against the world, but not the case, its all about what you can bring to the table and remember that you were born into this world so you are part of it. Again if there is something that triggers bad thoughts argue with it by practicing Affirmations
  5. Give yourself some time explore. This morning as I write this blog, my son and I went for a walk and got rid of my fatigue and had a good amount of energy and so now we are going to do this each weekend. I also make space to work and explore in the week too. It doesn’t have to be fast but taking time to be with your own mind and really gets rid of cobwebs

Life is about building your life for happier times and doesn’t have to be done all in one go, but taking your time and listen to your mind and body, and you soon know what changes in your life needing to change, like taking your time to have a better mindset and time.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

“2022 Project” More Life Coaching tips for entire two months, May and June 2022

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Hello Hello! Yes, so last year I did a Life coaching programme “Project 2021” giving loads of tips on how to have a better year and a better life, and this year I want to do the same, and so for the entire months, of May and June, I will be sharing videos, printables and blogs on life coaching and be sharing on my Pinterest and via Social media.

Here is my Intro video for this year’s coaching programme:

I will also be sharing items on my Pinterest, which will include other life coaching videos that inspire me like Mel Robbins, Tony Robbins, MuchelleB and many more.

So check out these links below:

Many thanks for reading and checking this blog out.

Carrie X

Getting on with it and moving on

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If there are things in our life that has not worked out, it doesn’t mean your life is over, it means it wasn’t meant to be. We can often feel like a failure, and beat ourselves over the head with it, example, starting a new job and you realise it isn’t what you thought and the format is not for you.

All experiences in our lives count to us growing and finding the job that is what you have been looking for. I want to work in childcare and so I have been trying different ways I can work within this industry to find the role that matches the one I want. It is good to have direction and trying different routes, but keeping in mind the expectations you have, to find the one that makes you feel like “Yes this is my dream” and makes you excited each day. Its not good if you dread it, because it can effect your wellbeing.

If it isn’t the right job then it is fine. Noone’s going to blame you for trying. Life is full of choices and we all in our lives will take a different turn.

You should never give up, but keep moving on and get on with it. Stop the worry, the analysing and the guilt, but put it down to life. It is all about choices and finding what works and what doesn’t.

If you allow life to be hard work it is going to be. If you keep giving yourself a hard time, then ask yourself “Do you want to be doing this all your life?” It can be draining, and so beating yourself up is sole destroying that doesn’t help, so getting rid of those feelings will help you breath and take stock of where your life is heading and set goals and trying new habits is the key to carrying on and letting go.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Climbing Mountains

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Hello and welcome! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for following me on this site and liking my blogs it really is truly wonderful and helps me to create more content to reach out to you, and so thank you for all your kind feedback.

I have my next Newsletter for March, see here if you’d like to read it:

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I think a lot of us can identify with Climbing Mountains, as life can feel like we are trying to reach the top of our lives but not accomplishing it. Many events in life can have an influence, like a lose of someone or you lose your job and feel unhappy that can come with that. Yet there are so many things you can do to get out of feeling that way, you can feel that there is nothing there for you now, because that security of a job has now gone and now you are on your tod trying to find the next chapter to your life.

Let me tell you, there is plenty to do, such as:

  • Creating an online course. I use Thinkific and it is a brilliant way to share your skills with other people. Please check out my online courses: https://carrieseducationnetwork.thinkific.com/
  • Creating a book. Iove writing stories, and for a while I put it on hold, but so glad I started again, and there are some brilliant people out there that can help you. I like watching a lady called Sara Cannon, and has a site called Heartbreathings. Amazon has made it easy for you to upload a book, so give it a try, you never know. NEVER LIMIT YOURSELF
  • Start a fitness routine. I love walking it helps my mind so much and I make sure I do some each day, and workout indoors. Taking up a dance class. I did dancing and really good in meeting new people and feels like fun rather than running if this is not your thing. Check out these blog sites I write blogs for: https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com and, https://getfitgetactivewithme.blogspot.com
  • Take that holiday. I was made redundant when working for a call centre and the campaign I was working on, moved to Poland so I couldn’t continue, and we all knew that it was coming, and so the Christmas before that happened I took me and my son’s dad before he was born, to Florida. I went first class and it was so worth it, and so take a break, the world doesn’t need to stop, and treat yourself.
  • Spend time changing your environment. Staying in four walls is never going to help, or being somewhere that you don’t like and want change. Find the place that makes you smile and give you a good new lease of endorphins.
  • Get rid of assets that you no longer need. Sometimes having a good sort out, and declutter can help the mind and start a fresh and a new beginning, and so if there are assets that no longer serves a purpose, give them to someone else who might have use for them, and sell.

Life can hit a block in the road, that is life sadly but getting up and changing what is stopping you from getting on the top of the mountain can make the climb a breath.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

World Book Day/Being Inspired by books

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On Thursday it was World Book Day, and my son dressed like a mouse because of the book called, Gruffalo, one of his favourite books and reads the story himself.

We can get so much from it and celebrate the great writers of the world and what we can learn from them. Being a writer myself it can take time to write a book, and it often gets forgotten how long it takes, and I think we have gotten into the place in this world where anyone can write one, and it can be a kids or an adult book, but connect with people and you can learn so much.

Like the book Wild, which became a film, with Reece Wetherspoon and where she walks the Crest Trail and is a true story and she comes across a lot of hurdles but she needed to do it to help go over her life, as she had gotten into drugs, and shows how drugs can effect the mind, and how you can overcome the things that have happened in the passed.

I discovered Harry Potter books when I was sleeping in a member of my families room and they were there and, I just picked it up on a whim, and once I started to read the first one I couldn’t stop, and reaching out to people via book is so rewarding for both the writer and the reader.

I love a variety of books, like thrillers, true stories, comedy and chick flicks and detective books. I like books based in the 40’s, or before then or after, and just love now travelling on the bus and read, with a coffee in my hand and I feel comfort from them.

A book has to be good from the start to finish, and really resonate with me and gets in touch with my emotions. Reading a book is a great habit to have, and I love buying books and being given books as gifts, or just because that person handing the book over, had recommended the book to me and really good to form friendships. I used to lend books to colleagues and someone gave me some books that they never read. These were all books by Tony Robbins which I still need to finish reading.

So lets celebrate books and how they can teach us so much without a certificate in the subject but learned different things, and how to get started when reading and writing, and remember the simple ideas can be the greatest thing you have done.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Rising to the top of your life

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So first off, I want to say a big thank you to all your feedback, liking my blogs on this site and you help me build it up and inspire too, and I love being part of the “Blog Community and network” so thank you and for following me truly, utterly grateful.

Rising to the top was an idea I had watching the Winter Olympics, and how much training that these athletes do to get to be a gold medallist and even compete and it means training every single day so it becomes like drinking water.

I bet some have had falls from doing for example Snowboarding, and ended up in hospital, but they still continue on to rise to the top.

Now we aren’t all going to be able to have a gold medal but doesn’t mean you’ll never rise to the top, because we all have it within ourselves to be better to what we already are, for example I knew that if I continued dancing and gaining my medals I would win the cup for the highest marks and I did it.

I needed a weekend job that suited my lifestyle being a mum and finding something I could do that would not interfere with looking after my son, and so found one and recently I wanted to stop working in a call centre to do Childcare and Housekeeping. I wasn’t good as a housekeeper but I did love the nursery work I did.

Due to circumstances couldn’t continue on because of the hours and because of COVID, but doesn’t mean that I failed or didn’t accomplish anything, because I did. It helped me to build my experience in one of the sectors I wanted to work in.

Now I going to be working in a holiday club, and means I can still do the school run until I find something with in the school term to do, but can work around my sons dad’s schedule and my mums, but feel that this is going to be a great opportunity and so looking forward to it.

This blog I created because I was searching answers to change the way that I felt about my life. I felt I hadn’t achieved anything but I have. I did the Great North Run, I was able to travel to Florida for Christmas and went business class, and it was nice to live that lifestyle and now I want to create more dream holidays and memories.

Rising to the top comes with many paths and roads you follow and hurdles for example, after doing the Royal Parks run I couldn’t walk properly as I had Runners Knee and it hurt, but then I continued to do more running and walking.

Yet I completed the half marathon and once I did these events would reflect and made me see you don’t need to be a millionaire to succeed in life, but what you put into it that matters.

So never feel you can’t rise to the top in whatever your passion is because trust me you can.

I am writing and putting together my Newsletter for February so will link that once this has been donel

I do write other blog sites, have three Youtube channels, on social media and have online courses. So if you want to check these out you can, the links are below:

Youtube:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg/

Blogs:

https://carriesversitilefashion.wordpress.com

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com

Pinterest:

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/typicallondongal/

Online courses:

https://carrieseducationnetwork.thinkific.com/

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

ORGANISING HAVING TIME FOR OURSELVES AND DEALING WITH LATENESS

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I think it is important to have time for ourselves because when we don’t we can feel worn out. Thursdays I am always extra tired and it is not because I have issues sleeping because I haven’t, its because I try to do too much and I travel a lot and so it takes its toll.

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I make sure that I have days where I don’t put anything onto my skin, I make sure I keep my hair healthy by wearing a shower cap and my body, by taking supplements to help me, and I have a good routine now that if I need extra rest I take it and then Friday I am fine, back to feeling human again.

I try and take my time, as I hate the mad rush and I do this by having a cup tea or a coffee really helps. I hate being later for anything, and I find being regularly late is disrespectful, as it seems like that person doesn’t really care, and promised after 20 years of being late, to finally be on time.

It is often “I will always be late” attitude “But that’s me” and I feel like well “Sorry for waiting for 3 hours for you to show your face, but that’s just me”.

If you can’t make it or gonna be late, let the person know, but if you keep letting them be late, then that is not helping them. I hate for people to think I am unreliable, that “She’s always late”. When I have been late I learn from it, as it often was because I would be lost. I have no sense direction, but I never seen that as “That’s the way I am”, I made sure I have planned on how to get there and that person I have called to meet me outside and take down the directions ahead of time.

I have not always been reliable and I have taken days off from working because I just didn’t feel like going in and because I went out the night before, but never made me feel good. So I learned that if I want to be seen as being reliable I have to lighten up and just do that.

Taking time to be with yourself is important and I have booked holidays when working, and not gonna anywhere as such but to have a break and time for myself. I would when I took up running, had set time on a day off to do so, if I couldn’t do any in the week when working, and its just making time to be you and the world, gone up to London to run, and setting a date with myself. It makes such a difference.

So give yourself a break and this valentines give yourself love aswell as others.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

P.S: Please check out these links for my other blog sites, social media and am on social media too, and have written books on amazon.com under the names, Carrie Challoner, Carrie Lee Holmes and Carrie Holmes:

Youtube Channels:

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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVjvO2fsowvFne_iMuG7d1g/videos

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCW6X7xXVFoaToqlDpGLTtSg

Link for my Pinterest:

Blogs:

https://carriesversitilefashion.wordpress.com

https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

https://everyonecanbuildacastle

https://mystylewayofliving.blogspot.com

https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/

https://organzie4thebetter.blogspot.com

http://stylishmamma.blogspot.com

https://mydailythougthsandfeelings.blogspot.com/

Social media:

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Online Courses:

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Feeling Sceptical About Life

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There will always be events in our lives we have no control over like today in London there was a bus crash and I travel by bus most days, and it questions “Is life worth living when it can be soon be taken?”

I watched a video of Meat Loaf his last ones he made before he died, and in it he was already planning his future and see that even when life can be fragile it can also be a huge lift of “I need to live my life now”

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Often we can feel like the world is on our shoulders and that there is no where to go that will lift you out of the feeling of “Is this really my life?” and so we get stuck in that bubble, but you can feel good about your life by making gradual steps, like changing your daily routine and get away from the norm that comes to life.

I remember once when it was my friends birthday and was on a Tuesday, but we met knowing we had work the next day, but we got into a huddle and went clubbing and was such a good night, so doing something to your norm can bring back the life in you. The next day after that Tuesday though, I didn’t go into work and slept in, which I would not promote, but doing the everyday routine can bring us down, and wanting a bit of a change from what you do every single day can make a huge difference to your wellness and health, in terms of how you wake up the next day and want to have more days and nights to do one thing different that you don’t always do. Like when I was up in London would arrange a meet up with friends last minute and staying over at a friends afterwards unplanned.

Never stop planning life and if you fancy meeting someone for an afternoon tea for example then save up, set a date and contact to see who will be able to go with you and have that luxury. It is something I really want to do again and so going to schedule it for it to happen.

I am really want to go and watch a football match again, with my son and have it in my planner on OneNote to have this booked and wanted to take Henry to another show and we are, we are going to see a play about the Gingerman at the Polka Theatre who do a lot of shows for kids and would recommend, oh I am not sponsored them but if someone who works there would like me to, I would say yes definitely.

Life can be full of surprises and if you are fed up in doing the same thing over and over again it can be boring and that is where it can lead you to feel negative about life. I love having things to look forward and it breaks up the days and weeks to come.

I write blogs everyweek and many things planned. If you like to see my first Newsletter I did starting this month, please click the file linked below:

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I also have three Youtube channels and you kind find a lot of my content on Pinterest, plus I am on social media and so see all the links below, and I have written many books and these can be found on Amazon.com under the names Carrie Challoner, Carrie Lee Holmes and Carrie Holmes.

Youtube:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVjvO2fsowvFne_iMuG7d1g/videos

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCW6X7xXVFoaToqlDpGLTtSg

Link for my Pinterest:

Blogs:

https://carriesversitilefashion.wordpress.com

https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

Social media:

https://www.instagram.com/typicallondongal/

Online Courses:

https://carrieseducationnetwork.thinkific.com/