22 Wednesday Nov 2023
Yes it is that time now where I share my monthly newsletter of what is coming up and share tips on various things and this month is all about getting ready for Christmas.
So check it out and lets enjoy getting ready for some good family fun, and creating those wonderful memories.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
15 Wednesday Nov 2023
Yes it is time for goodness and spending time with those you love, but it can also be tough for others. There was a time I dreaded Christmas and was a humbug. I was angry about it. Now though since my son has come into my life, love it again and looking forward to it
I have created a printable for parents and included it into my parenting blog: https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.com
So I hope this helps you and I will be doing more as we head towards Christmas and don’t feel alone in the worries and stress, Christmas can bring, as many like me feel the same, and just want to be a good day of cheer and love.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
12 Sunday Nov 2023
When you see that you no longer fearing life, and that you feel good each day and able to shake off the anxiousness, you have turned a corner and that your life is taking shape, perhaps with surprises but I feel that I am enjoying the days and feel positive no matter the challenges that come my way.
Getting out and exploring has helped and having time with my son and family, along with making the most of the weekends, rather than doing nothing, has helped me be more present that has helped me get some shape in my life.
Really dig deep into what you want out of life and who you want to spend it with. Have new experiences. I want to do some more courses via Adult Community colleges to help, aswell as doing some online, and really learn about the mind and body more, to help build awareness, when it comes to happiness and wellbeing, and how our minds operate.
Yes it helps us to think and feel, but look into why we feel up and down a lot. Perhaps you feel like you are like a Yoyo. It could be food, and that leads you to feel sluggish a lot and that you want to change but your urges get the better of you, and feeling that you will always be punishing yourself over your diet, and will never change. Yet we all know deep down that we can, its often fear that other foods don’t give you the same joy.
Take each step to improve at having a better diet and allow yourself chocolate but work for it. I will if I have done all I needed to do in the morning for example will then make a coffee, or a treat and not talking just food, but like you would when you child does something good. I stop with the guilt, and as long as I get some exercise will have a treat or two, along with saving myself for my dinner and having a mixture of meals.
I have realised that I enjoy buying food and love mouching around the big stores but also budget, and making different meals. I do like cooking whilst listening to music or an audio book and found my real joys and using it to be happy each day. I also like it when I don’t need to cook, and help with the washing up. like as I write this blog had a lovely roast dinner, made by my husband and today took Henry up London as it was his birthday on Saturday and doing different things and experiences can help.
So make each day count and when you are no longer feel stressed, feel good and that days aren’t hard, and you enjoy life more, means your life is taking shape.
Many thanks for reading.
Carrie X
07 Tuesday Nov 2023
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health and wellbeing, looking after each other, looking after the mind, Spending time with family and friends, supporiting your mental health
Life is terbulent and you made the wrong decision. How do you make it right, and can I get back on my feet? I had terrible anxiety at one time over an event that I thought was happening, when it wasn’t and then thought I was being followed and kept having fears that others were being hurt and I was frightened, and that other things were going on, and I hit rock bottom.
I was scared about my son going to school, and went into hospital and it really helped me. Life was getting too much, and going into hospital finally helped get over it. I am now back on my feet, Making sense of my life and concentrated on looking after my son, writing and getting an income again and get back out in the world and put it all behind me.
You have to move on. It takes time, and just making changes just one change, can really help you to move on and be happy and content, and become resillient and aware of triggers that an cause the anxiety and not feeling in fear and thinking terrible things were going on.
I was very depressed. I felt like the world was against me and was thinking things that wasn’t true and with help of my family, I found myself again and now I am in full recovery, I am no longer having home help, which I received by the Surrey Crissis Intervention team and then Merton Mental Health Intervention team and I am still on medication, but I no longer have to visit every two weeks or so and am back in reality and been doing courses, published another book, Mum&Me on amazon, and been looking for outside work, in healthcare and Childcare and exercising too.
My son and I spend time travelling on trains and walking. I back doing Youtube weekly vlogs, and sit down videos talking about managing my money, and have an educational channel too.
Check these channels here:
Anyway to get back your feet, live for the now and each day. I don’t want you think that I am boasting, about getting over my Mental Health problems, just showing how I got back on my feet, and this was by making sure I went to my regular hospital appointments and taking their advice, and concerntrating on the things that give me joy and understanding mental health, and using techniques given to me, to help me manage my mind and look after my wellbeing, so I don’t feel scared and that it happened, but now is over, and using what happened, to help me feel stronger than ever, and focusing on the good things I have in my life.
I want to learn about the mind, that I don’t already know and help others to rebuild their life and helping other parents, with understanding a childs mind and new interventions, and trying methods to continue to build my own wellbeing and learn using the free tools given to me, to help stop me from going back down that road. One was traffic light system, so green where it is steady and your in control of your thoughts and feelings, amber that you are in between feeling good or bad and red that you are back to having dark thoughts, following a pattern of negative behaviour and feeling low and scared again.
This is just an example. When it comes to Mental Health, it is unique for each person, but it is following good habits and educating yourself on how to manage your thoughts and feelings, It can really help you get back on your feet. Also learning not to panic and be calm if for example, my fear of losing stuff and just concentrate on finding it and having people help you and not allowing it to affect your wellbeing to take action to find what you have lost and not have sleepness nights.
I am no longer dreading each day, but look forward to what the day will bring, and keeping myself busy and enjoying my days going out and to different environments. Last weekend it was my mums birthday lunch which was a surprise and got to see my cousins again, and friends. It didn’t go smoothly, due to traffic problems and good to have a meal and catchup and would like to do that again, and was good to see those that I don’t always see because my family live in various places and so it is hard to get my whole family together, but seeing those not seen for a long time, reminded me how I have missed those times and enjoyed it, and seeing different faces and visiting new places can help, when it comes to your wellbeing and plan your days so you can have a good day without living in fear of life.
So, first of all:
Many thanks for reading.
Carrie X
31 Tuesday Oct 2023
Posted in Autumn Reset, health and wellbeing, Weekly posts, Yearly Reset
So yes my Autumn Reset is over, but didn’t manage to complete my third draft of my book, so set out a plan to get it done by the end of the week, I did however, complete the organisation of my room, and on the chosen areas, and it feels so good to have more space. There are still more to be done, but taking shape and feel better in sorting it out.
Sorting out my shoes, I found some white slippers I forgot about, brand new and so got them on now, and then I found a coat that I hadn’t worn for a long time, and now my go to, coat again, and check out my blog site: https://carriesversatilefashion.com where I have talked about it, I love how clear my desk is and so going to keep it that way, and my wardrobe, check out my Youtube video where I declutter it: https://youtu.be/jPPz-9NRqJY
I have had feedback by people liking my blogs and going to keep doing a Autumn reset but there are changes I need to make for it, to be even better and space out my projects, as I find with youtube I get somewhat behind, and so need to spread out my work on my blogs and videos better.
I do have ideas for a new Winter programme, and so once I have put it together I will let you know what it is. So I hope you found my blogs helpful and hope you have a good Halloween and so more reset blogs and videos to come. My blogs of my Autumn are going up, and so make sure you visit my main youtube channel, to watch these and more blogs coming soon.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
28 Saturday Oct 2023
So, three days left of my Autumn Reset, and I have happy with the progress I have made to get my next book completed, almost got the areas of my room done and tomorrow going to do my Sunday reset, to help me in these last days and I like what I have done so far, by sorting out my top shelf above my desk, sorted out my wardrobe and closet/cupboard I decluttered and just got my shoes to do.
I have filmed these areas and I hope they help you, and motivate you to have a reset, and if not Autumn then Winter and before Christmas, so you can celebrate without having so much to do, and have more time to celebrate.
Writing books can take a while, and make sure I some spend time with my son, so have to manage my time so I don’t stress, but take time away from the computer, to stop with burnout and moving from my desk helps the process and why I wanted to sort out room too, to have more time to write and not having so much stuff, but what I need and know I am gong to use.
This is my desk and I love how it looks, I do need to clean it which I am going to do tomorrow and still like to make changes to it, but I like that I don’t have too much on it and helps me write, having a nice clear space.
I was also trying to finish a course I enrolled in, and glad to be getting this done, as there are others I want to do, as there is still so much I want to learn and grow my writing and knowledge in helping people through my blogs, books and videos, along with face to face. As I want others lives to be happy and use the tools I have learned and learning so I can do that.
It still feels surreal that it is coming to the end of October and have to get my Christmas planned, along with birthdays, including my sons and so using my evenings like now at the weekend to catch up on tasks, being it has been half term, and spending time with family, and enjoying the week with my son and not sat in front of the computer all day long, and like going outdoors. This helps to clear my mind and boosts my energy.
I have realised I love food shopping and in big supermarkets, mainly Sainsbury’s, ASDA and M&S, because of what is on offer, and like planning my dinners, with some treats and when I need clothing essentials. This morning we took a trip to ASDA and bought some socks, and went to Sainsbury’s on Friday and bought cake mix as we made some cupcakes which I have filmed for my main Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal Along with items for dinner and I enjoy it.
So what have you discovered since you did a RESET? How has it made you feel if you have completed your tasks for it. You can leave a comment below.
I do have another video where I talk about how I manage my money and post every week, and hope they help you too, to manage your money: https://www.youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
27 Friday Oct 2023
Posted in Autumn Reset, Monthly Newsletter, Monthly posts, Planning 2023, Printables
HI check out my Newsletter that I post each month, about my content and projects I have been doing, and I have been doing a Autumn Reset if you are new to this site, to complete different areas of my life, like getting my next book I am writing finished, completing some courses I have enrolled on, which are part time, and via a site called Ofcourse.
So please check it out:
Many thanks for finding this blog site and you follow me, to get updated each time I post a blog, and if you have been doing an Autumn Reset, I would be interested in knowing what areas you have been completing, and lets support and help each other.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
23 Monday Oct 2023
Yes it is the last week and means that I will need to get my head down and complete the third edit of my new book I am writing, called When Mothers Are Real and have been filming videos and sharing snippets from this book, and all the videos will be on my main Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal
I have been working on my bedroom in Wimbledon, and just got my shoes in my room to go through and so that means all that I wanted to sort out, has been done, and want to do more resets and will be as we go into winter making further changes. I have started to plan for 2024.
I am not going to stress running a bit over to get my book done as this week it is half term and so have to put other things aside to get it done, and this helps because I do jump from one task to another, not completing anything, and want this book out and published, to work on my next book and projects.
Things will get in the way, like school holidays and family events, but if you have ten minutes, then you still working closer to the finish line, and keep going, with taking breaks in between.
Create a plan, I used calendars on Word and Excel and has made a difference, and writing a writing plan each week has helped, and choosing areas in my room, that are priority and pleased with what I have done so far. Please check out my Pinterest to find content https://www.pinterest.co.uk/thetypicalLondongal/autumn-reset/ and starting to get my vlogs up, and if you didn’t see my first video, where I sorted out a ruck sack that I no longer wanted and how I do a Sunday Reset and planning for the week ahead: https://youtu.be/puscj58zXSw
Prioritising is the key to getting tasks finished and spreading out tasks, that I want to do in the morning, afternoon and evening. Set the scene, I find cleaning the table or desk before I start really effective in helping me do my book and do bits around the house or in my room, and doing exercise, really boost my energy, and feel sufficient in Iron because had bad fatigue in the morning again, but when I take Iron, seems to really help, along with coffee and not eating too much.
So got a week left and feel pleased with my progress, and see the finish line, so it has been good and will continue to do this each year and want to do another monthly reset in the year to help too and plan my projects year in advance, as I find with my videos I get behind and so want to continue to a structure that will help with that.
I hope, if you have also been doing an Autumn Reset and please tell what you have completed and how you plan your life to complete projects. You can leave a comment below.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
15 Sunday Oct 2023
So another weekend and today me, my mum and step dad decluttered a cupboard that we use for many purposes such as clothes, books and the bar holding our clothes fell down, so had to sort through and it feels so good to let go of stuff and having a sort through.
It meant that I had to store items in my wardrobe in my bedroom, that I cleared out but that is okay because it is stuff I want to use and not still be sitting there in days to come. I may have another sort out, but have some bits for my son and I to paint, and want to use for Halloween. And I feel it is okay to do that, as long as they do get used, and look after my walking boots and it items that I care about.
Today I sorted through my notebooks by my desk and tidied up, and kept notes from them in folders as great for keeping ideas and goals not achieved yet, and I like going through old notes, as seeing the list it made me see that I have achieved many of my goals, I had written in these notebooks, like sorting out my bedroom and books written, and anything not used for the last two years where I began my life coaching programme I will go through and help me plan the next one in summer 2024.
I still got to go through my shoes, and I like the fact that my desk is clearer and uncluttered, and got a blue box near my bed that I want to sort through too. I have asked my husband, if I can use the shed once this has been sorted out, to stock my craft stuff, as since I found a notebook I made into a scrapbook, I want to get back into it.
My videos that features the areas I want to get done for my Autumn Reset, will go up starting this week ahead, and if it is the future, then they will be up on my main Youtube channel:
https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal
Next week it is half term but my son is at a holiday club for two of those days so going use the spare time from completing the work I am doing on my next book, and have included that, and then it is time to get ready for the festive season, and I do plan of having a new programme set up for this period, and so, more content to come.
I have a book out that I published at the beginning of the new year. It is called Mum&Me and is about a mother and daughter who live together and see things very differently, and the mum is obsessed with ordering goods from TV shopping channels and online and of things she didn’t actually realised she’d ordered, and Elizabeth the daughter, is a stay at home mum, and has a son called Freddie and has a little baking business on the side, and has arch rival, a neighbour called Gloria, who tries to gate crash Elizabeth birthday party and obsessed with beauty and cosmetic surgery and her kids go to the same school as Elizabeth and are on the school PTFA, and Gloria happens to be the head, and only her opinion counts. So if you like a good comedy and want to have a good read whilst you have some free time,check it out. Its available in paperback and Kindle: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mum-Me-Gucci-Tits-Virtue-ebook/dp/B0BGSS7H9K/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1697392250&sr=8-1
So, let me know what you have finished if you too are doing an Autumn Reset. You can leave a comment below and lets inspire one another and get family involved or friends, and put on a good Podcast or like I did today, listened to an audio book, called Save A Cat Writes a Novel.
Many thaks for reading,
Carrie X
09 Monday Oct 2023
So it is the end of another weekend and trying to get a Vlog ready to upload and its not happening, so gonna worry about it for another day.
The weekends are about spending time with my son and see other family which we did today, and played a new Dominoes game and a card game and was such good fun. I love my weekends and having that extra rest and go for a coffee out and just having that break ending the week and starting it, and as a kid I never always appreciated them, but we were always out when I was kid, seeing friends and family, and just different from the week,and they were such fun times and miss that.
I still get stuff done, by putting some laundry on, putting clothes away that are clean and not been put away, and use my Sunday evenings to plan for the week and plan my writing for the week and just setting myself up to have a good week and ready for any challenges that may occur, and always thinking about an alternative solutions if the trains aren’t operating properly and if there are delays. If appointments have been changed, and recharge my batteries so I can function well for the week ahead.
Saturday we went out. My son’s swimming lesson was cancelled and we were going to watch my brothers team play rugby, but got called off, so jumped on a couple of buses and went to Putney, and took my son into the park, walked along the river and had a really nice meal out, and such a nice weekend.
There were other people doing the same and forgetting their normal routine and just living life, socialising and chatting, and living.
So make the most of your weekend so it doesn’t feel you haven’t done anything and take the time off, and live. Spend the time meeting friends and seeing family, go for a walk and meet someone for a coffee or go out, making sure you stay safe, but live it and live for the moment. On my way home from seeing my brother and his wife, and kids I started to go through emails, and then I sat back and stopped and said to myself “Stop and sit and just enjoy the ride”, not looking on Instagram, emails or Youtube and just enjoy, and it felt so good, So have that time to take in what is around you, and give yourself that time to do what you want and let yourself be free of rushing around.
Just to let you know I did uploaded my week in a life on my main Youtube channel, so check it out: https://youtu.be/-7vRdXxHPuQ
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
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