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Monthly Archives: November 2023

Getting from A to B in life

26 Sunday Nov 2023

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Everyday living, friendship, Friendships and relationships, having bad days, health and wellbeing, New Beginnings, Personal care, Personal Development, Planning 2023, productivity, Weekly posts

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Just to let you know I write a daily blog now, that I did before and then took a break, but wanted to get back into posting on that blog site, because I enjoy it and sharing many things. Here is a link: https://mydailythougthsandfeelings.blogspot.com/

A picture I took from this weekend as I write this book, and visited Wimbledon Common on a Winter walk

If you didn’t know I have uploaded a new Newsletter so here is the link to that: November Newsletter 2023 I post one each month, and so check it out.

So getting from A to B. We spend a lot of time rushing around, travelling to different places and means dealing with delays on transport, the weather and errands you can’t avoid like getting ready for the different seasons, and Christmas can be so stressful that can make us become humbugs. Then there is dealing with emails, appointments and getting ready, if you have Children ready for school. So getting to A to B in life can come with many hurdles.

We will face challenges in our lives, and there is no avoiding them. Getting through childhood I found was hard, because I did find it hard to make friends and get to grips with things that happened, through childhood, like people dying, I didn’t understand life and death, and feared it for a while. I would live in a daydream a lot, and wished I spent more time taking it all in, and appreciated the things we did, like the weekends, where I’d played at my nans houses, did dancing lessons, whilst my brother played football. This was each weekend at a local recreation ground. We would spend time in pubs and all I wanted to do was go back home, and when those times stopped I really missed them. Those days were great and would be around lots of people that made me laugh and this was before the internet and social media and would go on some really good fun holidays. We’d go round to peoples homes, and stayed over, or they came round to us, and would squabble, trying to torment my brother a lot, and we’d have toy fights and would go to birthday parties and Christenings and it was such a brilliant time, and thanks to social media I have got back in touch with people, from those times and thankful for that.

When it comes to school and doing homework I couldn’t wait to those days to be over. Thinking and understanding my life, I actually did alright, and writing that, its the first time I felt that it was okay, and it was only the food at school that was bad, thinking about Primary School. Going on day trips, and spending time with friends and make the most of what we had in the UK, being British. It was my confidence that affected me, and feeling like I was climbing up a mountain and not making it up to the top, unless it came to playing sports or dancing, and because I would do badly in tests and remember dreading Secondary School, being so different to primary school.

I did go on to the sixth form year of my school, and felt I had a good level of freedom, but to be honest I had enough of education, and then started working, and I did write a blog about how I found work life, was good for me, and my knowledge of the world thrived and enjoyed the working environment and started going out around London, and on the first full time job, was taken from London to Lille on The Euro star and, parts I found hard, it wasn’t always great, but loved the fact I was earning my own money and forming relationships that was fun, and I am so glad I had that time to just enjoy my teens and early twenties.

It is important to enjoy the early years and when it comes to Christrmas, to embrace the people you love in your life and not worrying about it being better than the last, which I often have felt, because life isn’t a competition, and getting rid of resentment and begruding each other success, is important, because that is only going to flare other negative emotions and can lead you being alone. Pay each other compliments and really listening to people and celebrate each others achievements and how they are building their life.

Live life together and stop knocking it down.

If you feel your life is going backwards then Reset, and Relfect. This is where keeping a journal helps, going through things that you feel is causing you to have these feelings. That is what they are, feelings that can be controlled. This is where my Autumn Reset can help, and help finish tasks, to then start a fresh, and I will go through my lists and set a plan to get things finished, making sure I leave time to have some fun. Weekends I spend with my son, having plenty of exercise, watching TV I don’t always get to watch, in the week and just having time to hug, kiss and take in every minute. Life can be tiring, and it okay to be tired, we are all human, and that we spend time having a nice hot bath, read a book, doing some retail therapy, and not to be buy clothes but food we love to eat, stuff to decoarate our homes with and buying new things for our kids and bringing smiles to everyone in your life, faces.

Getting to A to B in life shapes you, depending on the paths you have chosen and if things haven’t worked out, brush yourself off and carry on.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

November Newsletter 2023

22 Wednesday Nov 2023

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Celebrating, Creating new traditions, Financial Living, Friendships and relationships, Monthly Newsletter, Monthly posts, Printables

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Yes it is that time now where I share my monthly newsletter of what is coming up and share tips on various things and this month is all about getting ready for Christmas.

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So check it out and lets enjoy getting ready for some good family fun, and creating those wonderful memories.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Looking after your Wellbeing Celebrating Christmas

15 Wednesday Nov 2023

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Celebrating, health and wellbeing, Living, People, Personal Development, Planning 2023, Weekly posts

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Yes it is time for goodness and spending time with those you love, but it can also be tough for others. There was a time I dreaded Christmas and was a humbug. I was angry about it. Now though since my son has come into my life, love it again and looking forward to it

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  1. Delegate: If you are worrying about hosting Christmas and it is your first time, then delegate duties, example have someone cook, and you concentrate on decorating and get your kids involved, depending on their age, and have those in your family contribute to it, by having those coming bring some wine and other bits of food, so it is not all landed on you.
  2. Budget: Yes I will be talking more about this on my channel My way of living and helping you not to over spend and what you can realistically afford. At the end of the day it is a day to bring people together and not on things you can’t afford.
  3. start buying groceries and treats, like chocolates before the prices increase. ASDA do some offers and I also like checking out M&S and Sainsbury’s, so take note, and have a folder to help plan and that is a good budget that fits into your lifestyle and you don’t leave yourself out of pocket, because of Christmas.
  4. Family feuds: Yes, not all families feel good to share Christmas if there is a fued and you don’t want it to escalate, by not including them into your plans, so set it out that you get to see some family on Christmas and the other family on boxing day and swap it round, so they don’t miss out and neither do you. Do the same for the new year, so you can still include all those in your life and noone ends up on their own.
  5. Music: Put on those records and create a playlist using Youtube or iTunes. I love having a good selection of music, that brings back those you have lost and miss over Christmas and creates a good atmosphere and have a Christmas party, with a Christmas Buffet and again have people bring food and drink and play games that everyone can join in. I love playing games a Christmas and always been such good fun. That helps if you have troubles and forget them for one day, and helps create a good setting so people feel good and relaxed.
  6. Drinking: The one tradition we did as a family was we’d go to my nans and my dad and uncles would go to the pub. It can be a great atmosphere. If someone over drinks then make sure you set out some rules beforehand and that people can get merry but doesn’t lead to bad behaviour that turns into a fued.

I have created a printable for parents and included it into my parenting blog: https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.com

So I hope this helps you and I will be doing more as we head towards Christmas and don’t feel alone in the worries and stress, Christmas can bring, as many like me feel the same, and just want to be a good day of cheer and love.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

When you see your life taking shape

12 Sunday Nov 2023

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Everyday living, health and wellbeing, Living, New Beginnings, People, Personal care, Personal Development, Planning 2023, Positive Habits, productivity, Weekly posts

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When you see that you no longer fearing life, and that you feel good each day and able to shake off the anxiousness, you have turned a corner and that your life is taking shape, perhaps with surprises but I feel that I am enjoying the days and feel positive no matter the challenges that come my way.

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Getting out and exploring has helped and having time with my son and family, along with making the most of the weekends, rather than doing nothing, has helped me be more present that has helped me get some shape in my life.

Really dig deep into what you want out of life and who you want to spend it with. Have new experiences. I want to do some more courses via Adult Community colleges to help, aswell as doing some online, and really learn about the mind and body more, to help build awareness, when it comes to happiness and wellbeing, and how our minds operate.

Yes it helps us to think and feel, but look into why we feel up and down a lot. Perhaps you feel like you are like a Yoyo. It could be food, and that leads you to feel sluggish a lot and that you want to change but your urges get the better of you, and feeling that you will always be punishing yourself over your diet, and will never change. Yet we all know deep down that we can, its often fear that other foods don’t give you the same joy.

Take each step to improve at having a better diet and allow yourself chocolate but work for it. I will if I have done all I needed to do in the morning for example will then make a coffee, or a treat and not talking just food, but like you would when you child does something good. I stop with the guilt, and as long as I get some exercise will have a treat or two, along with saving myself for my dinner and having a mixture of meals.

I have realised that I enjoy buying food and love mouching around the big stores but also budget, and making different meals. I do like cooking whilst listening to music or an audio book and found my real joys and using it to be happy each day. I also like it when I don’t need to cook, and help with the washing up. like as I write this blog had a lovely roast dinner, made by my husband and today took Henry up London as it was his birthday on Saturday and doing different things and experiences can help.

So make each day count and when you are no longer feel stressed, feel good and that days aren’t hard, and you enjoy life more, means your life is taking shape.

Many thanks for reading.

Carrie X

Going through tough times to getting back on your feet

07 Tuesday Nov 2023

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Everyday living, Friendships and relationships, having bad days, health and wellbeing, Living, Love, People, Personal Development, Positive Habits, Weekly posts

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Life is terbulent and you made the wrong decision. How do you make it right, and can I get back on my feet? I had terrible anxiety at one time over an event that I thought was happening, when it wasn’t and then thought I was being followed and kept having fears that others were being hurt and I was frightened, and that other things were going on, and I hit rock bottom.

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I was scared about my son going to school, and went into hospital and it really helped me. Life was getting too much, and going into hospital finally helped get over it. I am now back on my feet, Making sense of my life and concentrated on looking after my son, writing and getting an income again and get back out in the world and put it all behind me.

You have to move on. It takes time, and just making changes just one change, can really help you to move on and be happy and content, and become resillient and aware of triggers that an cause the anxiety and not feeling in fear and thinking terrible things were going on.

I was very depressed. I felt like the world was against me and was thinking things that wasn’t true and with help of my family, I found myself again and now I am in full recovery, I am no longer having home help, which I received by the Surrey Crissis Intervention team and then Merton Mental Health Intervention team and I am still on medication, but I no longer have to visit every two weeks or so and am back in reality and been doing courses, published another book, Mum&Me on amazon, and been looking for outside work, in healthcare and Childcare and exercising too.

My son and I spend time travelling on trains and walking. I back doing Youtube weekly vlogs, and sit down videos talking about managing my money, and have an educational channel too.

Check these channels here:

https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal

https://www.youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602

https://www.youtube.com/@carrieseducationyoutubecha4891

Anyway to get back your feet, live for the now and each day. I don’t want you think that I am boasting, about getting over my Mental Health problems, just showing how I got back on my feet, and this was by making sure I went to my regular hospital appointments and taking their advice, and concerntrating on the things that give me joy and understanding mental health, and using techniques given to me, to help me manage my mind and look after my wellbeing, so I don’t feel scared and that it happened, but now is over, and using what happened, to help me feel stronger than ever, and focusing on the good things I have in my life.

I want to learn about the mind, that I don’t already know and help others to rebuild their life and helping other parents, with understanding a childs mind and new interventions, and trying methods to continue to build my own wellbeing and learn using the free tools given to me, to help stop me from going back down that road. One was traffic light system, so green where it is steady and your in control of your thoughts and feelings, amber that you are in between feeling good or bad and red that you are back to having dark thoughts, following a pattern of negative behaviour and feeling low and scared again.

This is just an example. When it comes to Mental Health, it is unique for each person, but it is following good habits and educating yourself on how to manage your thoughts and feelings, It can really help you get back on your feet. Also learning not to panic and be calm if for example, my fear of losing stuff and just concentrate on finding it and having people help you and not allowing it to affect your wellbeing to take action to find what you have lost and not have sleepness nights.

I am no longer dreading each day, but look forward to what the day will bring, and keeping myself busy and enjoying my days going out and to different environments. Last weekend it was my mums birthday lunch which was a surprise and got to see my cousins again, and friends. It didn’t go smoothly, due to traffic problems and good to have a meal and catchup and would like to do that again, and was good to see those that I don’t always see because my family live in various places and so it is hard to get my whole family together, but seeing those not seen for a long time, reminded me how I have missed those times and enjoyed it, and seeing different faces and visiting new places can help, when it comes to your wellbeing and plan your days so you can have a good day without living in fear of life.

So, first of all:

  • Get help
  • Take action by making step by step changes and habits
  • Learning the triggers that can make you relapse and get support
  • Change your habits and get back into doing things you enjoy and make you feel happy about life
  • Get outdoors and meet up with friends and family
  • Ecucate and learn about your mind and share your story if you feel comfortable to help others and build a community to support each other and get back on your feet

Many thanks for reading.

Carrie X

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