I was addicted to scrolling when I would be in a comfortable social situation would scroll and not paying attention. So in this weeks Cheat Sheet is tips on Cutting down on scrolling.
It something that I think we all do and I no longer scroll at night and in fact been staying up later to read watch a bit of Youtube or TV series on the TV. I am building my Pinterest at the moment but not doing this all day long and one of my favourite platforms but I not checking Instagram, Facebook or X all the time or Tik Tok continuously as I would at one time pick my phone up every five seconds and was doing subconsciously.
These cheat sheets are free to download and print.
Listening to a podcast and documentaries of Queen and Live Aid it made me realise that Queen were perfectionists and to Freddy he had a good attention to detail. A song had to make you feel excited and their Live Aid performance was out of this world and one that will always been remembered and when I spent time in a Mental Health Hospital it would be played and Bob Geldoff too putting it together and changed the music scene that not only can you write music but could create a master piece to be used and fame to make a difference. I have said “I am not perfect” but like my books and blogs to be perfect and have felt such an amateur when their have been a typo that I missed and reading my books and J.K Rowling her books had to be seen that this could be real, the same with the Hunger Games and The Lord Of The Rings.
Myself set up in Radio Studio that I’d like to perfect.
Yes mistakes do happen and can improve our focus and attention to detail as I can see that perhaps I need to do more of an outline on a book and not be in such a rush in publishing it but that my blogs and my message is put across. Its taking pride in what you do and I like my days now that I have had attention in making sure I have slept well, that my clothes are not super creased and that the home is tidy and that there are no crumbs all over the place, that the sink is shining and I am a perfectionist and I think now in observing people, we all are. We all want to have a home to give you comfort so spending time on the look of a home, like furniture, the perfect bed that we like to help have a good nights sleep.
It means you care. Yes you can get things wrong that is part of life but when you keep building and growing being a singer, dancer, writer or a Housewife you it perfect for you and for others you live with. Then there are things that you think are going to be bad, turn out to be a masterpiece. Boy George didn’t like his song “Do you really want to hurt me” and didn’t want it on their album and yet it changed his life and Culture Club, but again it is perfectionism. It can work against you like the example of the Boy George and Culture Club sometimes it can cause confliction.
You only know when something is good when you get feedback both good and bad. I have had criticism, but people will. It doesn’t mean you have to stop but may need to make changes and feedback is a must.
A chef will always want feedback. They need to know if people like their dishes to learn how to make a meal better and it depends who it is for. A child may not go for a steak that is within the specials. I do not like Liver because of school dinners but then I didn’t eat Tuna but had Tuna Steak, which made me realise it could be tasty. So it was perfection for me. It was cooked well, it was flavour and that is where it pays off and so when you do something check it, taste it and makes us succeed by being consistent and attention to detail, which is the key and what you like. What puts you off? What could you make that you can master that will help build a website and what outcome using the Worksheet I created in first blog: https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/2026/04/29/introduction-to-my-yearly-programme-summer-project-2026/
I like to see things develop and watched how they put together Bohemian Rhapsody. It was really clever and every bit of was important in the making of it. Seeing Strictly Come Dancing live. Being there was such an thrill, because how much work goes into to making it. It was different the clips that they had to do and film and so much goes into it and it is perfectionism because if the presenters can’t talk, the cameras not working it could all have been a disaster so again it is attention to detail and consistency.
So what do you want to focus on?
Focus on what result you want. Who could help you perfect a skill or if its your weekly routine you have been working on?
Dig deep and be honest. It was journaling that helped me put this is blog together and by journaling each day has really been a great. It has helped me to slow down and keep going. Writing a book is a hard process, because how I see it the readers will see it differently and its making it understandable, engaging and that they will read more books I write. All to down with perfectionism and tip you toe in the water to start and learn the craft that you want to perfect.
I do a radio show for the local hospital and its not just pressing buttons, but choosing songs that the patients or family of patients may be listening to and like. Making sure the last song fits in with the news and not cut half the song and playing the Promos and not playing the same songs, it is a whole process and you have to enjoy it and music that may be personal to people. I have made mistakes, but the more I do it the more I will perfect it and try different themes and what a song makes me feel when I hear it.
So having good attention to detail and consistency means you are a perfectionists and now as I become aware of the world as I grow in age, it is okay because its about using to build your skills and abilities and let work for you not against you.
Hi I am a bit distracted today. It was a busy weekend and in recovery mode you know when you’ve exerted yourself so much that I need an extra day rest but want to crack on and get things planned and the one thing I do everyday is monitor and check my bank account.
I like to save each week and has inspired me with this weeks Cheat Sheet. It is tips on managing your money and use the tools I have and learned and if you are new here then I post these Cheat Sheets each week and they are free. So please check this weeks and I am posting on here for my Yearly Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2026.
I am posting blogs every Friday, but cheat sheet every Monday except Bank Holidays.
I have added a blank sheet should you wish to write or take notes on what you feel my tips are helpful and you’d like to do first and I work by making gradual changes. Each Monday I put money into my savings and I will see what has come out. You’ll see I put down that I have no spend days. I wasn’t going to buy clothes but I want to change my wardrobe a bit and I am into dresses and being a bit more feminine and I like to changing my style.
There are weeks where we don’t have enough food as it helps use up what we have and stop having too much waste. I wasn’t junk journaling but now I enjoy it and want to junk journal and love scrapbooking and invest in a nice journal and I making my own. Not sure when they will be available, but will let you know.
I have a planner dedicated to my finances. I did have a spreadsheet but my laptop stopped working and so lost all the files I had created and so write them down and prefer that actually as they won’t get lost.
There was a time where I was in debt and now I have paid it off I am glad I have money to save and more financially stable.
You can subscribe to this site and it is helpful to me and like if you like these posts and will help build and grow this site. It helps me to know what content you find will be helpful and share what you do to manage your money. See the comment box below. Have a great week and now I have a new X Account where I post my content as I have other blogs. See link here: https://x.com/typical86285
Life is full of decisions and paths. It is full of challenges and when we set goals we are told to manifest and visualise. This can help but what is the outcome you want and write a list of goals and then ask yourself, what are realistic, what is important to you right now and what is giving you the strongest feeling that is you don’t do it, because you jumped in with both feet.
Been so guilty about doing that too and so to avoid what one step can you do today.
I write books so the first thing I focus on is putting the first draft together and how many pages can a right that I know I can do to begin with. Once I have completed the first draft, then next edit ready for the second draft and so it is about gradual steps and taking your time.
Changing my diet and be more healthy and I say I am going to have salad all this week, I know that that is impossible for me as often I don’t want the same meal each day and focus on what do I want now, do I have the food I want? How much money will it cost me and will it satisfy me? I am not one to prep meals for the week but set ideas and do it day by day now. I would write down meals for the month and I’d change my mind. I like to decide more or less on the day.
I do plan but this year I wanted what I wanted last year. Right now my goal is to grow and continue with my blogs, write and create books, my sons first year of his new school and educating myself on writing and growing my content.
So what one thing can you do today that will help you to your ultimate goal. So my books the outcome is to get it published to the work on the next book and let them “Grow”. My word for this year.
Check out my blog I did that I attached my Worksheet for this programme Introduction to My Yearly Programme Summer Project 2026 I as I write this blog looking for something to listen to whilst I write this blog and came across this short by Jennifer Lopez about skincare https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Q7MdZPUBFu4 It is being consistent and doing daily rituals and how we organise our lives.
So take it each step and in the worksheet it asks about the outcome and so workout what you want to happen in your life by focus on one thing as it comes and planning as you go.
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Hello! So it is the beginning of my Life Coaching programme Summer Project 2026 check out previous blog: Summer Project Introduction to My Yearly Programme Summer Project 2026 I included a worksheet which is free to download and print.
So to get started I suggest to create a plan. So I journal every morning and it helps me with my creativity and whilst I listen to an audiobook or music. Develop a playlist. I have one for podcasts, videos about writing as I have books out, for my different books and Parenting videos and so it is good for getting the mood to change and learn.
I train my brain everyday. I like to educate my mind and the first thing in the morning once my son has gone off to school.
So to make a change by going through the worksheet:
Good Systems:
Plan, Plan Plan = Have a good set up and create one that will help you focused on and inspire you to make a change. If there are particular things that you are interested in. #so start with developing a plan and do a list, but concentrate on one area or item at a time.
Ask for help, who can help you or what will help you So my husband always cleans the kitchen and the bathroom, so I will do the areas such as the windowsills, put m sons clothes away and my mum has helped with gardening.
Do you have a quiet time of the day or space you can plan? I love to use the sofa or my desk and in the garden.
Drink? Water, tea and Coffee. I am having a glass of juice each day for Vitamin C and especially in the summer life a fizzy drink but only have one and Zero Sugar.
Is there a time where you feel more energized? I like to work in the mornings and then chill in the afternoon and have time off such as the weekend.
I find spending time planning helps to reset, asking for help as we are not built to do everything and my husband loves to clean and only he is allowed to use the vacuum and the iron. This has helped me to function concentrate on other area so I can then move to onto others.
So sit down with a drink and lets make those changes.
Hello! It’s that time of year when I start sharing blogs about things I’ve done to feel good about myself and my life.
This is all about focusing on abundance and recognizing what’s working in your life.
Make one change at a time and concentrate on what’s important to you.
I have a free worksheet for you to download and print. If you want to stay updated on my posts for this program, please subscribe.
As you work through the worksheet, take time to reflect. I suggest journaling every day, like I do. You can get a smart journal or use an app to track your progress. Begin by focusing on one thing and keep using the worksheet. See Below.
This isn’t a test; it’s an opportunity to face your fears and improve your relationships with yourself and others.
The program will run from May 1, 2026, to August 14, 2026.
Hi all! I hope you didn’t mind me taking a break from posting on this site. Please check out my last blog of my Monthly Newsletter: April Newsletter 2026
It is a new Cheat Sheet today and it is all about doing Joint Tasks and it can become a ritual and now I am listening to a podcast whilst posting this blog.
Hello and welcome! So it is that time again. My Monthly Newsletter and I share what we did during Easter and things I have started doing and just a catch up. My Yearly Life Coaching programme will be coming and so more to come.
Writing in my Journal I realised that okay I got on the wrong train, but in the end it was good timing, because if I had got on the right train to Epsom from Wimbledon I would have been waiting a long time to meet my mum and step dad, so it worked out well.
I thought I’d got lucky getting on the train and realising it was going to Surbiton and not the route to Epsom. I do believe in God and so thought, great thanks god only to realise I should have waited but no, I thought smugly only to be taught a valuable lesson, not everything is about me being lucky as he has to look after others and who am I to be the one that gets lucky all the time?
I had felt that I’d make this mistake, so it was okay “So it was today” and shows that I wasn’t paying attention which when I say to Henry to pay attention, that I need to do so too and that I needed to have a taste of my own medicine.
I feel I have learned some real home truths this month (April 2026) that I can be the person that I dislike. Holding up my guard to much. A guy getting on the train and two boys today, I gave them a dirty look. Yet today I moved over when walking to the train station and the girl gave me a dirty look. So what you put out there you will receive back to see that I prejudged these people not knowing who they are and the images of what they could in some way harmful was just me being irrational and need to get a grip.
My laptop broke trying to download some random software to be able to post a vlog on Youtube. It gave me focus on enjoying my Easter Holidays and not be tied to my laptop. I was rude to someone in Tesco’s, I need to manage my anger and annoyance and today, stop being in a rush. Rushing causes mistakes and the true me is having patience and take my time.
I am polite and hate it when like today, I thought my coffee was ready when it was for someone else and the person who was the one that made the order, didn’t look happy but I didn’t take it and I made a mistake. I think we expect too much and people get things wrong. This is how we learn and I know the difference between a real annoyance to a minor, not on purpose, but a general mistake.
We are human and we should be more acceptable of each other and the mistakes we have made.
No one is perfect and I know I am not alone in getting on the wrong train and now will not worry if I miss a train. I had plenty of time so I needn’t have rushed.
So during the Easter holidays my laptop cut out and so I am using my husbands and I knew I was going to have a problem and I did. I was getting frustrated with a Youtube video Youtube video I had edited crashing using Clipchamp and its causes me so much trouble and so I downloaded some new software and I managed to get the video saved but it went dead and now I may have lostall my work, as I was working on a books and wished I could have undo, but no.
However it has been a good Easter. One of the best and it made me take a break and focus on taking my son out, going on bus and train rides, played tennis and went to the Cinema twice and saw my niece in a show and its been really so much fun. So I didn’t allow it to ruin the fun and it has felt good not being online for a bit. I have posted on my Instagram which is under carriechalloner.
Life is not always a bundles of laughs, but humour can help. When I have felt low put something funny on. It can take the wind out of you but as you get older you can become resilient and still have fun. It made sure I wasn’t on my laptop all day and love going for walks and having a coffee out and my son loves the Cinema and I had not been feeling well but that didn’t stop me from having fun either.
I am going to take a break from vlogging and may not continue, I just feel that it is not working for me, but will still do videos but work on building my two Educational Youtube channels instead as I like doing sit down videos rather than vlogs.
It has made me revaluate and I have had to make changes. I’d rather work on my blogs, books and radio. I do a radio show for Epsom Hospital Radio.
That hasn’t been easy doing radio. I have to change the day I did my show because I was doing Sundays but it is now Fridays but they are so understanding and I was told about commitment when I was temping and I found a better job, nearer home and I went to talk to him and wasn’t going to allow the manager to make me feel rubbish and I had not done that before but I was no, your not going to talk to me like that and sometimes you do have to let people down.
I left him to get on with it and I am committed, but I got a better deal and it was a good move. I went to work for the International Tennis Federation and so, changing jobs, changing where you leave and marriage it is all challenging, but its often the universe telling you what is meant to be and what is not.
Hurdles teaches you, check out this blog the perfect day and they are a test to see how we react. I yesterday overacted and told my son “That how I reacted was wrong and so please listen, mummy shouldn’t have overreacted like that”. All that happened is a young guy put his roll on my till and slammed it onto the right one and felt so bad afterwards. I do have to be careful of my actions as I would be shocked and disappointed if Henry did that and if that had been Henry making that mistake and someone reacting like, I would have told that person off. People will make mistakes and so need to look at my own reflection sometimes and if you can recognise your negative behaviour can help you learn well the say “sorry that is the wrong till” and left it at that. He did say sorry but I could see the shock on the young guys face.
Any not the end of Easter just yet. So I hope you have had a good Easter so far and soon my Life Coaching programme Summer Project 2026 will be starting. More to be confirmed.
