Hello! I hope you had a good Mothers Day. I got I set off Wireless headphones for my phone and a card from my son. Had a nice dinner and my son did well at Tennis and Rugby and won player of the week.
Now though it is a new week and this means it is the day I post my weekly Cheat Sheet. I am share how I plan my weekly tasks.
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If someone does upset you its not about sitting there and taking it. Hear what they have to say and remember people will see the world differently and part of being a human being and if you don’t agree then say what you want to say. I will say how I feel but if you want to privacy then do that, but never allow anyone to walk all over you.
Respond without retaliation. So not being rude back, but give your point of view but allow the person to talk too. As soon as you jump in it can escalate into a heated argument and it doesn’t need to get that far and if they start getting personal then do speak up and if you need to move away then tell them. I said at one point that you shouldn’t walk away but now since then I disagree with that view. You have the right to walk away and why sit there and take it?
When someone doesn’t want you to sit with them. Leave them be. I remember when working at a holiday camp and there was one woman who sometimes I went to sit at her table she would move to another table and so I let her be and didn’t sit with her. People don’t always want to be around others and be left alone, so I respected that and if they want some time away, give them that space. Part of me was a bit offended but you can’t be to everyone’s taste and sat with people who wanted me to sit with them.
It can take a while to know someone. There have been times when people have not be my fan, but then through friends and people got to know me, then they will warmed towards me. I will say hello but often I will wait for them to talk to me first. There are people who will chat to everyone but for me it depends on how comfortable I feel around them. I have treated people as if they have a the plague but then once I have seen they are okay then been fine. I have learned to be the one who says hello first and not to wait, even if they ignore me.
Have boundaries. I like my space. I like to on my own sometimes. I love my son but often he will jump on me if he has when playing football and won not realising his own strength and so I will say we can hug but not to jump. At school I would hit and not in an aggressive way but intended to be friendly and it upset them and she told me she was happy about it and so stopped. Sometimes we can be unaware of our own behaviour even when it is meant to be friendly can make someone happy so still friends today and glad she pulled me up on it.
Accepting peoples faults and their different point of view. You can no matter how great you get on can get on each others nerves. Friendships came be turbulent but still be friends for ever. I like a friendships where you talk about everything and anything and not judged but still have a different point of view but it doesn’t have to be an end of the friendship. Its good to have people who are different around you. If they are constantly disagreeing or supporting someone in your group of friends on everything or purposely because they don’t want to undermine whenever you talk about then that is different. However we all have faults and when you can laugh about it then you know they have your back and you have theirs.
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Hello! Welcome March.. I wonder how many is aware of Mothers day on Sunday? As I didn’t realise so it is time to get those flowers, perhaps a trip somewhere or a meal to celebrate our Mumma’s and Nanna’s for all we do.
So this cheat sheet is about Getting The Best Out of Life. I love my days now and the one thing I like to do is walk and when walking on the treadmill for example I play four songs and then finished. Since doing that it has helped me to focus and do between 15 to 18 minutes. I do have a blogsite where I share my fitness: Get Active Get Fit
We put so much pressure on ourselves that we can often feel defeated and so why bother? In reading a Paul McKenna book he said “How would you feel if someone else did your idea?” like a book, a game or some kind of project and when we are envious, Mel Robbins has said that being envious is us feeling “There isn’t enough to go around” and I believe that.
There is always going to be hurdles and have events that you can’t control so why not embrace those times and use it to become stronger and do the thing you want to do. Not hurting others but making a change to your life that makes you face the bad and the good. I feel I can feel destroyed if I get into to an argument and find it hard to deal with so I will put on a song or leave the room to calm me down and journal. I can rant and it is good like crying. It is a release and then I am fine.
Arguments don’t have to be difficult to handle and walking is also something I do to release tension and handling difficult times. I remember I didn’t go to work one day when one of my uncles died and needed to just keep walking and walked from Kingston to Richmond and I felt so much better. I felt it was what I needed to do and not something I have done before but I needed to be outside and not cooped up inside.
So if you having a hard time at the moment then listen to your body. How is your breathing. Is it fast or slow and is a great time to do a home project you have been putting off. I remember when the world cup in South Africa and my husband and I were living in Wimbledon and England were losing and in the end I ended up tidying out a draw and instantly felt better and yes okay if you not a football fan, I get that may make you yawn but using an example, to distract the mind when life is becoming difficult and the one thing I ask myself each day as my mind and body begins to get anxious is ask myself “What do I want to focus on today?”
February was about getting my son ready for school as he had been having one to one tutoring at the library whilst we were waiting for a placement and was praying, which can help and he was successful and that has been my focus, now it is to get my home in Epsom sorted out and moving. Then March is to get my next book I am writing finished and published.
Then will be planning for my next Life Coaching programme I do each year. My Summer Project on this blog site I do each year and there is more to be arranged and confirmed. I do this to help you have a better life to have a better year.
I will be creating videos on my Educational Youtube Channel and really looking forward to it and helping you feel good. With the what is going on with the world I feel a bit of TLC is needed.
Anyway so what do you want to focus on and even swimming is good for the mind something I am desperate to do. So as I write this blog have booked a swimming session as it has so many benefits and because of distance I get my steps in and so looking forward to it and get back into it.
No situation has to get sticky and can be the best thing. I am glad for example my Grandad Parkinson’s did get too bad and he left the world without being able to do anything, because he would not have liked it so even though it was traumatic and still able to hold his cigarette and he was never willing to give this up and he loved horse racing and was still able to walk before he left the world and I miss having my grandparents in my life but it was his time and I am glad he had lived to old age, but now he with his brothers and sisters as my grandparents were proper grandparents being the heart of the family. Yet seeing my Uncle after his stroke was heart breaking, so glad that he is no longer in pain as he felt the life he once had was taken away from him and so so sad. I know that he can now rest and be with my Uncle Charlie and again with nan and grandad.
I do feel life has a purpose and feel no matter what is thrown at you, you can come out of the other side thriving and glad that my Uncle Tony spent his last days being near his daughter and grand children. I am glad my grandad and nan got through the world wars and then got to experience cable TV and my Nan loved buying from QVC and died where she was born. I know some people may not believe me, but I feel that the way my nan died, my grandad was waiting for her and God was looking after her for all she did for her family and was her time to properly put her feet up.
So life can still be good and work for you and does not have to be difficult.
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I think we discredit ourselves when people stop contacting us or someone has jumped in front of you and they feel more worthy that you and you are like “What about me?” “Why do bad things happen to me” like Ross in Friends and not everyone is going to be your bright light and I feel that life tests you, because some people you meet can be challenging and to see what type of people do we want in our life.
It can take a while when someone has been unkind to you to get over the hurt. They may feel you owe them something. You don’t owe anybody anything it is up to you, but keep the faith within you. Once you start having faith about yourself then you’ll find that its mumbo jumbo to you and that there are people who have your back. Why should we allow people who are unkind to upset your day? Everyone is allowed to live and its not about having the best life. I feel that is unrealistic as life comes with hurdles but that life can be fun and to now it is about being authentic.
Not everyone is going to be your friend and I am okay with that now.
It is good to have people in your life that think differently to you because I feel it opens up a good conversation and help build our own opinion or sometimes we like to listen to others problems to not give an opinion but a lending ear even if you don’t have an answer just to listen to others, the more you build trust as long as it is a two way street and if you have people who are the same as you then it can be boring. When people in your life has a different point of view it doesn’t mean you have to ignore each other but you see them of who they are and this is the same and the same. I like that I have different type of people in my life and I love the people I met at Butlins because we had to put up with eachother. We had to stand on our own two feet and many were rebuilding their lives and doing something that was different to the every 9 to 5 job. Many were in the forces prior to working there and some had a tough time at home and so was a kind of escape from that.
I loved being part of a group and when there are people who care about your safety then you realise that the world is full good people, no matter how some are mean, are good and most people are genuine. With what is going on in the world it can make us cross and not see anyone but we have to keep on living and get the best out of life and get out into outside world and I feel those that do bad things, disrupt our lives and gives me more reason to respect my self and no I am not playing God, I want people to feel good about them selves and not to give up and there is another side of the world that is good and that this is just be a blip.
I would always get fed up when shopping and had been laughed at when trying on clothes so I decided that I wasn’t going to do that anymore feeling already self conscious from the beginning and I avoided changing rooms but then I was like “No I will try it on” and let those supposedly friends snigger. It made me realise that laughing behind someone’s back didn’t suit me and how I’d feel if that was me. I am lucky now though, having a good settled life and with people who truly love me and it as far as I am concerned has to be a two way street when it comes to being with people and having faith in yourself and others.
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Hello! It is a new month and week. How fast is this year going? Means making more spring like food. Like Salads and have lunch or breakfast in the garden and working out in the garden with a good meal. This can ease the Mind and the Body. So in this Cheat Sheet it is giving tips in Meal Planning.
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Hello and welcome! It is a new week. It is almost the end of February and remember it is Mothers Day soon. I am not sure if my son will care. He unaware of it, but that is fine I will be back doing my Radio show. Check out Epsom Hospital Radio. Look under Carrie Challoner and do show on Sunday’s.
So in my home I like Simple Systems and is the Theme of this weeks Cheat sheet.
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Hello is the last week of February and that means it is time for my newsletter that I create each month and share what me and my son did during half term and what is coming up and just a catch up. If you didn’t know I have a Vlog Channel on Youtube and so please check it out: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal
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I have found that we are always consuming, we scroll on Pinterest and look at Instagram and shop. With Social media it can take over our day and when we watch a haul we instantly want to go out shopping and buy items from TikTok but we then see we didn’t need those items. We can compare ourselves and our lives and I am not being a hypocrite as I do use it, but I am careful what I watch and what I put out there into the world.
I am now vigilant it what I am feeding my brain with, because we can be easy be influenced and I am guilty of that.
Also are we listening to gossip? I remember working in a call centre and there would be people talking unkindly about other staff, celebrities, reading magazines and it could really make us feel uncomfortable and I was told I was no good at my job so decided to just not listen to it. As long as I believed in myself that was all that mattered.
I was there to work and didn’t always socialise, because I didn’t want to be surrounded by people who were going to talk about you the next day.
“what you put out there in the world is what you will receive”.
It is also bad news. I do watch the news but not all the time as I find it depressing and don’t watch anything too gory, but like a drama and I don’t watch soaps because I can be quite disturbed by them and rather watch a concert, Days in a life Video, writing tips and love being part of the writing community by watching those who have self published, getting tips and ideas, life coaching or a good podcast.
Also what we read. I am reading a book about the punk rock era and of a guy trying to make it and forming a band based up North, Liverpool and the music scene around that time. I find certain songs really can affect my feelings. Not because they are bad but because the song reminds me of a tragic time, like Never Walk Alone, I remember the Hillsborough Disaster and I just find it so heart wrenching because of the words and so I play certain songs that helps with my feelings unless it is for a book I am writing.
The diet culture. I have had an eating disorder, had really bad anxiety and body dysmorphia as I hated myself a lot as a child and teenager, because of the way I looked and I would be really upset. I avoided mirrors and changing rooms. Now though I love my body, my hair and skin. I like to exercise, learning what my body can do and am skilled. I can dance, write and a good imagination and creative.
So spend some time writing down the things you are feeding your brain and workout, what is effecting you and getting you down and what are the good things you are consuming?
It can take time but you mindset can change and work for you and not against you.
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Hello and welcome to another Monday. If you are new then each week I post a Cheat Sheet on various things and this week it is: Different Ways to Organise. I do a blog specifically about Organisation if you’d like to check it out:
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