Yes set goals, manifest, create a Vision board and get a new diary or planner, but what is around you right now? I have gotten in a place where I am okay by how it is now. I have clothes, my son, my homes and my writing and at this moment, I love all these things.
So I am open to what 2026 brings and just let life be more present and leave part of my life to fate and yes I believe in God. There are changes and transitions, as I am moving, as I live partly with my mum and step dad but with my husband and son too, and they are the things I am focused on now.
There is still a lot to learn and going to do more courses as I love doing that. I loved my reading and completed 20 books this year and my challenge for 2026 is 21 books. I will be updating site, My Books and Stories.
I am watching a Video by Carter Sullivan on Youtube and is on the same mindset as me and that is to see what happens in 2026. Its a relief to me and letting go off the girl who feels I have to map it out all the time and mind maps are good, but you don’t have to set up your whole year but where your are now.
So January it is getting back in to learning mode, for me working on my book called When Mothers Are Real and setting up my watch for measuring my steps and sorting out the home.
I have begun No Spend January and set up my planner which I plan to film and it doesn’t mean I can’t spend anything. Its only essentials and stock up on them so I don’t need to go and buy. It means doing a spending plan and what is not a priority.
I was fired by an employee back in 2008 and it really affected my confidence. I couldn’t wait for #Christmas to have a break. The people where I worked, was so rude that I wondered if they would be that rude to their family? Snapping whilst on the phone as I would be doing what a company should do, give Good Customer Service and they hated it. The guy who ran the company, was awful.
There was no morale and when I reported the bullying to him he blamed it on me and yet it all the people who were there, were all really unpleasant and so going back after Christmas and start of a new year I was fired. I feel they did the right thing, because I didn’t walk out, which some would have done and so I am glad he did fire me now because then it made me decide my next path and did some temping for a bit, but was ready to go back home and my time living near the south coast was coming to an end.
So if it is too much then don’t let yourself feel as though you have to take it. There are organisations you can call for help and then I found job in Kingston and yes there were not very nice people there but I became resilient and they ended up leaving and I ended up being in a good team and so take action. It may be fate, meaning that its time to change and that can be the thing we fear the most, of what to do next so we can often feel that we have to stay. No, if it is stressing you out then leave and get support and life is about chapters ending to welcome new beginnings.
One person who was having issues in a job and she rang me unexpectedly because she felt she was being bullied and sometimes you don’t want to be rescued, or for someone to resolve it for you, its about able to speak to someone to make sense of it. So talk to someone. Also you have a right to leave and say that you are not happy and if things don’t change you will leave and it is okay to confront. I would not advise to do it without support for your own safety and not their word against yours, but ask for a chat and if you can have someone there with you.
I have come across many walks of life and met different kinds of people and those that carry out the bullying are actually the one that is vulnerable and perhaps they need help. I am not saying they should be getting sympathy, but that often it is not about you but about them and the using you as a verbal punchbag and so should be reported for their own sake.
I hope that helps you and as we head into a new year I wish you a Happy New year and if you like to read more of my blogs on this site then you can subscribe.
See above a blog I wrote in 2018 and still relevant because as there is always obstacles but I have learned to deal with them and not allow them to stop me in achieving my goals and dreams. I do a radio show and we have a new system to play music. I have found it challenging but rather than avoid, faced it head on and I know if I keep using it, the less of a hurdle it will become and challenges are there to help you.
Life has a way of keeping you on your toes and so allow the hurdles or doubts that come into your mind, and life and what you want to do. Do you want the voice of doubt bug you? Are you going to quit?
Quitting is fine, but if it ends up as a regret then take some time to reflect and does it excite you? Mel Robbins says that anxiety and excitement is the same thing. I love my show, I just finding the nerves overwhelming but I know this is what I was meant to do along with writing blogs, books and creating videos. I care so much and want to create my blogs, videos and show to help those. The Radio show is for my local hospital as it is a hospital radio station and I get so much joy.
What does a new year mean to you?
Is there something that gives you a burst of excitement?
I am going to see Bon Jovi once again. Yes it could end up being cancelled, I may become ill, but what ifs are just that. What if it all turns out alright? My son is going to a potential school option and finally get a placement. I have chosen to have less commitments for myself in 2026 to spend my time visiting different places I’d like to take my son to and want to explore more and continue what we did the year we are leaving and yes trains can have disruptions and the buses haven’t been reliable but we have got to where we wanted to be and plan less to do more.
Twenty twenty five has been a good year. Okay my son got sick at the beginning but we still had the meal we wanted afterwards, because he was taken to hospital and Henry was fine, he didn’t have a meltdown and just chilled until we could go home and just a bump in the road. Life will have bumps and as much as we don’t want our kids to be sick, their intolerances and immune system need to develop and so, he wasn’t fazed by it and so I am not.
When we went to the Polka theatre a lot and one of the shows we ended up getting drenched. The Radio event I did for the first time, leading to Christmas in 2025 finished early because of the weather and had issues with music and the choir shows, but we carried on and I enjoyed it and was a good experience and didn’t allow my nerves to talk me out of it.
So face the obstacle but don’t allow them to continue to grow, my word for 2026 and if you fall, get back up again and carry on.
It has a been a different kind of winter this year. Not that cold but wet and rainy, with a bit of frost in the morning. Yet riding on the bus in the mornings to take my son, Henry, to do his schooling, I have found myself boiling hot.
Picture I took from when I visited Windsor this year and so been setting my Winter, to enjoy the places we went to and so using this time of year, winter, to go through 2025 heading into 2026.
I like to have a nice iced coffee still, yet you’d think that that would be too cold and hot coffee all the way but no. So enjoy your take away iced coffee, is one tip. As I write this blog, gonna have an iced coffee indoors and I am looking forward to getting a perfect glass for a home coffee for 2026. So to gift to myself is going to be shopping for a better set of glasses and no more novelty mugs.
With the changes I want to make I want to clear out the kitchen before the start of the New Year. I decided to let my baking tools and equipment go; I know I may go back into it but I like cooking dinners rather than baking.
So second tip, find some home projects to do. I am trying to do more of my sons bedroom and mine and it really is making me use my Winter, to my advantage to concentrate on what I can let go of and making improvements to my homes. I live in two places and soon we, my parents, will be moving from Wimbledon and I feel positive about it.
I spent time yesterday creating vision boards for 2026. Organsing my birthday and Christmas gifts for family for this years Christmas and been organising my Notion. I went through my plans in terms of my finances for 2026, just got to put my planner together. I like to plan ahead when it comes to my finances I am going to do “No spend January” and try to do a “Low spend year” as I am going to call it, because I feel doing a No Spend for me, too unrealistic.
I am finding now that there are less things I want to change, but have more experiences. I liked the walks we did this year and the places we visited, my son, husband and I, with my mum and step dad and would want to visit more places. So rather than focusing on the low energy I usually get, I think well I am going to slow down. I am going to have a good set of books to read and just thinking about what I can do, not what I can’t. Normally I put my indoor workouts on hold but I have found that I like breaking up my exercise and do some through the day, rather than a set workout and I have a watch that I bought to wear at home and out to see how many steps I do when at home and outside as do like to potter around the home and tidy. I like to walk through the local parks and checking out the shops and can shop with out buying and going to continue and not act on impulse unless it is doing a bit of a workout and cleaning and tidying is still physical activity. Check my blog site on google: https://getfitgetactivewithme.blogspot.com/
I loved the walks we did even though I was reluctant at the time but it was good and loved Windsor, We walked from Kingston to Teddington and would love to continue to walk and visit different places within the UK, so using the Winter to think of all what we did this year and I love to plan my year and have things to look forward to. I have tickets to see Bon Jovi, plan to visit Scotland and the Isle Of Wight. Third is to get away. If you can get out and my son and I do bus rides and just good to be in a different environment and where my creative side of my brain gets active and I live rivers, lakes and the sea.
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Hello! So should I ask how the Christmas shopping is going and organising the food, presents and decor. My husband and my mum have taken care of the decor and the food.
It is good to delegate and I can take care of buying gifts and ordering bits and I am looking forward to the celebrations.
Then there is the new year. Twenty Twenty Five has not been a bad year for me and share the things I feel were good and worth remembering. Please check out my December Newsletter:
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