Welcome it is time for my AUTUMN RESET and been so looking forward to it.
It is time to get those projects finished, setting up for the next season and taking time out.
I won’t be vlogging my reset and focus on my other two Channels, which is part of what I want to do for this Autumn reset. I will do have vlogs to upload from Summer and then I will be taking a month off once those vlogs go out.
I do have a printable. It is free to download and print and to help you if you want to join me in this RESET.
I will working on a Book I am writing, completing my Son and I’s room and doing a declutter and been doing this during the summer but want to complete it and have more space.
Originally when I wrote this down it was about Body Image, but I now realise it is not just about that. It is all to do with how you treat yourself. This is not treating yourself with a box of chocolates, I mean being verbally kind to yourself and in your mind.
I am in a good place now. I have changed my thoughts of myself and my life in general. There are times in the mornings where I see my hair is all messy, I see unwanted hair growth but also, my room or home is chaotic and have no sense of, Is this it. Is this what my life looks like?
I have just come back from Wimbledon with my mum and step dad and I have case full of clothes, bag full of my notebooks and journals and I have believe it or not I did a declutter. So I am working on it. I will spend time tidying, unpacking and know I can get it back into shipshape.
This is free to download. It is reprogramming your thought patterns. I now make sure I read each day, because it slows me down and feel calm in the mornings now. I will have breakfast and go for morning walk. I do a bit of writing each day. These have really helped with stress and anxiety.
What one thing do you want to change in the mornings?
Write down in the printable or notebook of What is the first thing you in the morning. It used to be, for me get up, watch Youtube and before getting my son ready for school and it became a habit that would not help my day, because I would be lazy. It should have been to get my son ready for school. My son was close by, but had to get my priorities right and me and my husband would argue, because of it and if it were the other way around, I wouldn’t have been happy.
There was a time where I would come home angry. I was working in a Call Center, where people would call in, not happy, because I worked as a technical advisor/call agent and would go home and would bring what happened each day, home.
So are you have a lot of arguments?
Is a job, sleep or a relationship?
Is the food that you eat?
It is making sense of it all and creating a picture of yourself and your life and what do you want out of life?
Who do you spend time with?
I make sure that my son is okay and say good morning to him, have breakfast together, read and make sure my bed and his, is made and that my life is functional and do the things in my life that will help me grow and everyone in my life grow. Checking in on them and make the effort to have a good day, facing challenges but not making them stop me, from living.
Not having too many commitments, but that I have some social interaction and my son does too. I like to have a day off from everything and last Tuesday had a proper lazy day. I still worked on some content but stayed in and it felt so good.
I wish you all the happiness in the world. Life can be joyous and the image of it. Feel good about yourself. I write another google blog site, called Building Self Confidence – The Ugly Duckling: https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/
I really hope you find my Life Coaching Programme helpful and please give me your feedback and what would like to see in my next one.
What is coming up?
My Autumn Reset. Where I will be working on various areas and getting ready for the new season.
It is August 2025 and the last month of this years Summer Project and the it is my Autumn Reset programme and so more to come.
In this blog I talk about How Life Is Full of Lessons.
Shouting: I have found by shouting has made matters worse when my son wouldn’t eat his food and one work place, there was a manager who screamed and shouted a lot and it just made you want to pack your bags and go. I am not saying that I am perfect, it can be the first thing you do but it has made matters worse. Go into another room, stay calm and with my son now, giving him two choices, as soon as I feel like shouting I will take breath and say “You got two choices and if you do not choose I will choose for you. Check out his video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jQs5l6ojlOI&list=PL0AyektQNGDGF_ms_qIrBILXsIM_rTjp_&index=6 I give into my son when he begins to get annoyed and have a tantrum but you can’t please your kids all the time and staying calm and not shouting, has better results in your child see getting angry and kicking off leads to me make the choice and take my seriously. In shouting my son would laugh and it really got to me. Now I have stopped myself, it has had a better reaction.
Switch off: One Saturday I was seated on the sofa and every five minutes I was looking at my phone. This was driving me mad and so now I don’t have my phone always near me. I am not always on laptop and found sometimes, to do bits in silence. Like writing, cooking and having a drink.
Being out of debt: It feels so good not to be in debt. I do have a Youtube Channel dedicated to money. https://www.youtube.com/@financialliving I needed to rebuild my relationship with money. My spending was getting out of hand. I did have store cards, catalogue Accounts, overdrafts and an Amazon credit card. I was doing buy now pay later. Now out of debt my life has changed financially and monitor what comes in and what goes out. It feels so good to not to have so much “Money Stress” I call it and I do no spend days and use what I got.
Feeling defeated: Began Park run this year and it was good but wasn’t enjoying it. I was getting self conscious about being last. Since then I have been doing walks with my son, walking in the mornings when he was at school and this week did 30,000 steps. Now I feel ready to go back to doing Park run and even run part of it.
So what have you learned. What is now good in your life and how did you go about improving the way you feel about yourself and your life. Please leave a comment below. It is good to see your life changing for the better by what we have learned about areas in our lives.
I like to Plan a lot. It is something I have naturally done and was bread in me. People think because you are planning, that your organised. That is not the case. Its because I am disorganized I plan, I have forgotten when my son has had own clothes day, when he was doing a show at Christmas and not ordered his lunches for school, as he has school dinners, so I see it as a tool but also, a fun exercise.
I keep a written diary and use a Calendar on Notion and google Calendar and make sure I check my emails daily. It is good to have a nice diary or planner as it can feel like a chore but it doesn’t have to be.
I love journaling too and I like to design them so I can flick through and to remind myself of the main things I want to focus on.
I like using photos, images on line to create vision boards along with Pinterest and Canva, and mind maps.
It is great to get your kids involved too and designing and being creative.
Have a Family Planner that your kids can design and write on. Having a List for your children to complete where they can add stickers too once they have completed a task, adding a treat once they have done four things on their list.
I have a writing journal as love to write books, a daily one, gratitude journal and cooking.
You can create your own stickers and cut out words from a newspaper or magazine and books. I have been cutting out notes on my notebooks into my journal. I like to use colouring pens and washi tapes along with labels.
You can be a inventive as you like and can take no more than 10 minutes.
Have you ever chatted with with someone about say, You had a nose bleed and they then say “Oh well last week I had a massive migraine and was in bed for two days”. Now I am not saying you should not be sympathetic, yes migraines can be painful, but a nose bleed is still bad and then you say “Well that is bad yes, must have been painful” and now the conversation has swept passed your problem because that person feels that theirs is a lot more worthy and now you feeling somewhat like “oh mine is not so important.
We are all allowed to have fears and we all face challenges but we are all worthy of someone sitting down and listening to you and that your problem is not worth the attention because that persons felt more hard done by, by what’s happened to them.
Yes of course there are people who can’t climb stairs, but you can. #in meeting people who have a disability, never allow their problems to affect on yours and we are all have bad days or challenges and so life is not a competition. It is being on an even ground and have a good chat, without any resent or judgement. EVERYBODY HAS THE RIGHT TO SAY OUCH, HAVE A COFFEE AND BREATH IN AIR.
The one thing I like is to have is a good chat or discussion. I loved the team of people I worked with in a call center because we would just chat. A conversation works both ways and we all like to be heard and to feel that they’re not wasting someone’s time. There was one or two who wanted me to move aside for them to be the center of attention, but I would not entertain them and if they wanted to fly a flag to be noticed I’d just let them continue and put my head down to do my job no matter their feelings were and that when that happens its their own insecurities and in the end they went elsewhere.
Working for me is important to me and doing the job I have been asked to do. I would represent the department too as we did a good job and I felt that there was a resentment towards the department because we would work our butts off.
The best relationships are where you are on the same page and yes I am not saying we shouldn’t have a different point of view, its about having equality and not be snubbed because they are self centered and just think they’re story is more important. So life is not a competition and if you want a good relationship then give eachother the same amount of time to listen and talk.
Sorry I didn’t post on Monday I had to got the doctors and met up with my mum and step dad, but here is this weeks, it is tips on Getting Organised. I often write a blog all about Organisation: https://organize4thebetter.blogspot.com
I post my cheat sheet each week on various topics and I am not an organised person and because of that I have set up a routine where I will get jobs down, cleaning my home, remembering school dates and any appointments and don’t double book myself.
If you are not wanting to meet with friends, then ask yourself, “Why?” and talk to that critic that’s in your mind. It will always be there. because its part of your brain protecting you but we have to push it away and meet with friends and if it doesn’t go well then noone can keep you there and it is your choice.
Will you feel left out?
Like you are missing out?
I would often feel like that a lot and I realise it was because I wouldn’t go with them and it was a personal attack, when seeing pictures on Facebook. Now I have realised, is that, no they’ve not sending me a message to say I was uninvited and often too caught up in seeing other people myself and when I did got out I would want to stay out all evening.
When I hear the word “NO” I feel like I am in a car stepping on the breaks all of sudden.
My mind is resisting right now. I want to clean the Freezer but its given me a dread feeling. What if I can’t get it clean? Should I film in a vlog? My mind is overactive and the doubt just seeps in and before I know it, that job does not get done as I weighing up the dos and don’ts.
I have my finances to go through. I feel my mind resistance in doing so and it drives me up the wall. So I am going to go through my finances, no matter what my mind is saying, but listen to my gut and know that once it is done this weekly task then that’s it updated, until next week.
It is up to me and what I want to get out of this day. I enjoyed yesterday writing whilst having the tennis on and watching a bit of Youtube. So lets see what I do next and yes if my mind says NO, then I listen to be my gut and ignore the self doubt and weighing up the Consequences.
So with your worksheets I had created in this blog, here The Beginning of My Summer Project 2025 jot down. on Page 7, of what you want to improve. I am always trying to improve my skills and knowledge to help me with my writing, by watching other writers who have been successful and doing short courses online.
It could be to improve your fitness, your communication with others, having more time off and just clear your mind and then go through each one you’ve written down and start taking action.
I am still that girl who has clothes at the bottom of my bed, forgot to pick up something from the shops and gets lost quite a bit. So I will spend time to fold my clothes each day and each week and its having good systems set up. Managing Your Life With Different Systems for better Productivity. I will make sure I have a shopping list at hand and I have preplanned directions.
There is always in my book, room for improvement. When working on radio which I do on Sundays 4to6pm for Epsom Hospital Radio. Being doing this for about a year and still learning and improving my radio skills, to make sure I ask my Manager if I am unsure about something and listen to my colleagues shows to help improve my show and improving my Youtube videos. Check out my Channels:
Hello and welcome! I hope you are okay and adapting to the weather. This is being written in June 2025 where (I’m on the UK) we have had a massive heatwave. It is nice to see the sun but the heat has been getting too much. If that annoys you and should be grateful with nice weather, then Sorry and you can skip this bit in this blog if you want to.
So this weeks Cheat Sheet is about Having A Simple Schedule. I like to plan my days, weeks and months, and so developed a system whereby I do things on a selective day, time and write down my plans as well using google calendar and Notion, so they stay in my head.
These are free to download and print. If you’d like to be notified when I post on this blog then you can, just select subscribe with no cost and just helps me build my content and be some kind of support to you so you have a life where you aren’t stressing. I have always been super stressed but would wear me down so doing Simple Systems when it comes to planning and scheduling, has made me less stressed and enjoy each day.
Everyone can build a castle 