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You Don’t have to go it alone

15 Wednesday Oct 2025

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When I ran a football team and felt “Oh I can do this by myself” I soon realised that I needed a bit of help. It doesn’t have to be One Man Band and asked a parent to help. I was hesitant in asking and running a football team, there was a lot to do. It was up to me to choose the training I wanted my players to do, pick the team for matches and collecting subs.

I think I was a bit naive too. I had this picture of it but the reality hits and realised it is totally different to what I imagines and underestimated it too.

If I was to run a team again I’d make sure I had someone helping me and have an assistant.

“It is okay to ask for help”.

If someone offers to help then say yes or have a chat and decide what their role will be and that they have the same mindset as you. When I working at Butlins I struggled with working Front of house and so asked if I could go back of house and felt good that I had the guts to talk to the manager of the restaurant. One of my friends said to try back of house and we were put together and we had a brilliant relationship. She got me and I got her and so glad I asked instead for help and I still did a bit of front of house work but not all the time and I felt pleased that I took the initiative to share how I felt and thankful to the Manager for listening to me and I felt better.

If you are stuck

I worked for a company that sold tickets for some attractions in the UK and I was finding one attraction booking difficult. I asked if I could have a bit more training. You should be supported by your manager or Team Leader because it shows them that you want to do well and it is the employer duty to help you if you are finding some things tricky.

Write things down. I am now working on Radio for a local hospital and if there is an issue I will flag it up and it helps me and my colleagues to inform one another and I make sure if there is something I am not sure about, I ask. I write in my journal of how I felt about my show and if they have told me how to do something, I go through each step in my mind and journaling is a great tool and do it everyday and write down what you are not sure of and who is the best person to ask. Or ask someone if they know of anyone that can help and worked in an area.

It is better to ask then not.

If you make a mistake

We all make mistakes. It is part of our learning as human beings. It is also shows you what you want to do and talking to others, that if they have made the same mistake and what they did to fix it. Don’t hide behind a mistake, but apologies, move on and learn so you know for next time.

I have made mistakes and it would cause me stress but then it can be down to the fact that they hadn’t communicated properly. I found in some companies, especially when I did temporary work that they assumed that you should already know. I worked for a holiday company, processing data but struggled to understand what I had to enter and the manager spoke to me as if I was dumb said “Oh it is easy” and telling a friend she said “Yes because he had probably done it for 20 years and so of course it is obvious to him” and so if they assume you know, say “I need to be shown again so I don’t make the same mistake”. Ask if there is someone you can sit with to go over it and them give you written instructions too.

Do they want to do a good job or a bad one

It is all about what works best for you, but never be afraid to ask someone to help you and feel you have to go it alone.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Winter Wellness: Having no Place to Go

25 Wednesday Dec 2024

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It is Christmas day and was able to sleep in for a bit and watched BBC 1 and watching Breakfast TV they were showing volunteers and places where the those that are sleeping rough, its called the “Free Hotel” and have people on Christmas day helping to look after those who may be struggling and there are people who will be lonely, not see anyone.

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I love volunteer work and do a radio show at Epsom Hospital, which is a charity and I love it. So rewarding and there are people at Christmas who have no place to go and it is heartbreaking. I believe that noone should be sleeping in the streets and have a roof over their heads and a bed to sleep in and so if you can give to a homeless shelter, volunteer for the local hospital or there are those that knit things for the children in the hospitals, then you are making a huge difference to somebody’s life. Even if it is a couple of hours. Since working on my local hospital radio, I want to do more volunteer work.

This is not to make you feel guilty in anyway and that you have to do voluntary work. Since doing Youtube it has helped me to connect with people who to help others, like Mel Robbins, Kate Kaden, Fearn Cotton and inspires me to help others too by sharing the things that are important to me, that may also be important to you, via my vlogs: Typical London Gal, my blogs too, along with my books and creating different projects and programmes like this one, to make a difference. I am changing one of my books as I am writing a series called Mum&Me and got another book being proof read that I want to publish in 2025 called When Mothers Are Real and its given me such a sense of pride and joy.

It for me is like giving back into society and being grateful that I am not sleeping in the streets and have a gorgeous son and family. Yes there are times when it hasn’t felt like Christmas, treating it like a normal day, but seeing people struggle because of events and that life doesn’t stop just because it is Christmas. People can still get sick. My son is getting over a Chest Infection, I’ve felt a bit rough and my husband is unwell, but we can go home to a house and afford food and gifts for Christmas where others can’t and watching those who have created a place for people who are homeless that have nothing makes me appreciate my life and I now each month give the Trussell Trust, which is the organisation for Foodbanks and hate seeing people struggle.

So I hope you okay and can have a Christmas dinner, do gifts and enjoy this time of year.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

People who do amazing things that help other people live happy lives.

10 Friday Mar 2023

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I got the idea of this blog from seeing the theatre show The Bodyguard, which was originally a film with Kevin Costner and Whitney Houston, because bodyguards do amazing things and people who create music that last decades and means so much to people.

People who I see on Instagram doing running events to raise money for charity and those who save lives like the NHS, the forces and people who are firefighters or paramedics. I know there has been negative press about some of these services and they overshadow the ones working in these services who do a brilliant job and risk their lives everyday.

Then there are people who run foodbanks and on the One show, which is a BBC weekly show at 7pm each evening apart from the weekend do a section called One Big Thank you to people who have gone out of the way to help others with daily living and making life easier for people who are struggling to live and be happy. Example they had a lady who ran a library and arranged it into local meeting place and people creating a community for those struggling have somewhere to have interaction and support where they haven’t any support.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/1tRdb9XG6F1SCmF900Zdsr5/the-one-show-one-big-thank-you

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We should be helping each other and building happy communities and not just here in the UK but all over the world. Doing acts of kindness can really make a difference, and when I shop in Tescos they give you an option to donate to a charity which I always do and giving others clothes to help landfill and making a more healthy environment and help with less waste.

I look at Road sweepers and when I worked for the Borough Cleansing for Hammersmith and Fulham, they would be people who had been working in cleaning our streets all their lives but never get mentioned and they should, because they don’t often get paid a lot but we need people cleaning our pavements and roads.

They should be rewarded and given honours, and people who stand out in all weathers selling the big issue. These are people that do amazing jobs, and they don’t see it that way. To them its become their life and just doing a job, but do we want to have dirty untidy streets? Growing up in Hammersmith and Fulham in the 80’s there would be dog pooh all over the pavements, rubbish everywhere and in Chelsea too. It was grubby and so people who clean our rubbish and they in Hammersmith had refuge officers making sure that people didn’t put rubbish in the wrong place and fly tipping, which is against the law in the UK so they would make sure that people paid for items to be collected as waste like fridges were collected and alerted by residence of the borough following the rules in living waste on the streets.

Then there are carers. They don’t get much help financially either and that to me is disgusting because when you have a person with a disability or an illness can affect them emotionally and do wonderful jobs in helping people to still have normality in their lives. I think about Katie Price and how she has looked after Harvey. and on her own a lot, and had to deal with people using him to make fun of children and adult with disorders, and using him to put offensive material online. I know she is in the public eye but that is no excuse of the treatment they have often received and I think she is a excellent advocate to carers of children and yet doesn’t always get credit where she should.

Lets celebrate the wonderful people we have in the world and give them a One Big Thank you.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X