This is a lyric from an Adele song, “I Drink Wine” and from watching a video about That Girl, I for a long time would copy friends because I felt well they’re doing that and feel to meet my own high expectation of myself, had to be like that too.

Be yourself. Wear clothes that represent you. Cook meals that you like and find your own style. I love clothes and I enjoy putting outfits together, check out my blog carries versatile fashion and getting the most out of them, and yes I do save pins on Pinterest on Fashion, https://www.pinterest.co.uk/thetypicalLondongal/ because I like different looks but that I know I am wearing that outfit because it actually suits me, and not feel I have to wear an outfit to impress someone else.

That’s not me.

I like to put my own stamp on looks that I like and styles that suit me and having fun with clothes and not taking it too seriously and feel free as a bird now when it comes to my self image. I write a blog called Building Self Confidence the Ugly Duckling, and talk about how I struggled with not be happy of the way I looked. I remember saying once, when one of my friends commented on my earrings, “Well because you were wearing earrings” and as soon as I said these words, was like “No don’t say that” and couldn’t come back from it and saw them look at each other, like oh really, and the reason why they were friends was because we all had our own style.

They were more confident than me and seemed to be in jobs that were better than mine and had a lot going for them, whilst I felt inadequate, and they were better than me, and knew more people than me. Which now that is not the case.

I have a lot of friends and going to see some this weekend, and no longer feel that I don’t fit or that I have to be like them, but because I love seeing and hanging out with them, because they are different and feel I got to look a certain way for someone else’s approval.

That is not the case. I have had to learn that noone is out to get me and that feel not good enough because my friends are doing better than me in life and in fact using their success to help me to grow and build my life into one that I like, and accept myself at last.

I like admiring other people and I do have a style icon, Jennifer Aniston, and am influenced, but still remembering her clothes suit her because that is her style and that her body shape and appearance is hers and not mine but can use it to try different looks that potentially suit me and I never going to be Jennifer Aniston. She is her own person, and I am mine, so no longer feel pressure that I have to look a certain way.

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Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X