I think we discredit ourselves when people stop contacting us or someone has jumped in front of you and they feel more worthy that you and you are like “What about me?” “Why do bad things happen to me” like Ross in Friends and not everyone is going to be your bright light and I feel that life tests you, because some people you meet can be challenging and to see what type of people do we want in our life.
It can take a while when someone has been unkind to you to get over the hurt. They may feel you owe them something. You don’t owe anybody anything it is up to you, but keep the faith within you. Once you start having faith about yourself then you’ll find that its mumbo jumbo to you and that there are people who have your back. Why should we allow people who are unkind to upset your day? Everyone is allowed to live and its not about having the best life. I feel that is unrealistic as life comes with hurdles but that life can be fun and to now it is about being authentic.
Not everyone is going to be your friend and I am okay with that now.
It is good to have people in your life that think differently to you because I feel it opens up a good conversation and help build our own opinion or sometimes we like to listen to others problems to not give an opinion but a lending ear even if you don’t have an answer just to listen to others, the more you build trust as long as it is a two way street and if you have people who are the same as you then it can be boring. When people in your life has a different point of view it doesn’t mean you have to ignore each other but you see them of who they are and this is the same and the same. I like that I have different type of people in my life and I love the people I met at Butlins because we had to put up with eachother. We had to stand on our own two feet and many were rebuilding their lives and doing something that was different to the every 9 to 5 job. Many were in the forces prior to working there and some had a tough time at home and so was a kind of escape from that.
I loved being part of a group and when there are people who care about your safety then you realise that the world is full good people, no matter how some are mean, are good and most people are genuine. With what is going on in the world it can make us cross and not see anyone but we have to keep on living and get the best out of life and get out into outside world and I feel those that do bad things, disrupt our lives and gives me more reason to respect my self and no I am not playing God, I want people to feel good about them selves and not to give up and there is another side of the world that is good and that this is just be a blip.
I would always get fed up when shopping and had been laughed at when trying on clothes so I decided that I wasn’t going to do that anymore feeling already self conscious from the beginning and I avoided changing rooms but then I was like “No I will try it on” and let those supposedly friends snigger. It made me realise that laughing behind someone’s back didn’t suit me and how I’d feel if that was me. I am lucky now though, having a good settled life and with people who truly love me and it as far as I am concerned has to be a two way street when it comes to being with people and having faith in yourself and others.
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Carrie X
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