So, I did a blog about how Bestfriends can help your health, but what happens when a friend turns out to be an enemy and can damage our health physically and mentally.

I am a friend for life, and so for me the relationship of friendship is important to me and what I see in a friend is someone who loves your company like you to with them, and there was a time thought it is about having things in common, but now I realise as I have experience life being in my 40’s that it is not, but about being comfortable and being able to chat about everything and anything.

If they start to be snidey, two-faced and change their tone towards you then what do you feel you should do?

1# Has the trust gone and how are they with other people?

If they are beginning to invite you to places, greeting you differently then ask them about it. I read a book called Brave New Girl and she says that it is okay to confront. Why allow them to treat you unkindly and you have the right to stand up and be accounted for.

2# Never see is as it is you, because it isn’t it is them.

Friends can make you worry about certain things that you didn’t like before, such as your body image. I was told by a girl at school that i was boring about, because I was talking about my favourite TV show The Bill and that i would talk about my holiday to America.

It did hit a nerve, but it was about her and that she liked her own voice, but not others. Now I see that that was her opinion and started talking about The Bill and she moved on.

3# Having boundaries is not all about being argumentative but allow the other to speak. The one thing I hate and I have done it myself, interrupting,

My mum always tells me off about this and so I do catch myself. If I want a good friendship then I have to step up and let them talk. When I feel myself wanting to jump in, I will move my body back so I go from sitting forward to upright and with my look at them to listen.

Even if they say something you do not like, doesn’t mean you have to talk over them or them talking over you. I stopped watching Jeremy Kyle because of the shouting and now as much as the like the ladies, no longer watch Loose Women because of an episode, where they had a lady who was in #Big Brother the celebrity one and I felt so uncomfortable that I stopped watching it, because it seemed they wanted a bust up for entertainment value and why I no longer watch Big Brother and so have boundaries but let the person talk and if you helping a friendship because you actually care, but if they gonna jump in at everytime you talk then what’s point on having a conversation and friendship.

4# If it is a group of friends turning on you.

I like having a group of friends. It is good because it helps for me, with my endorphins, but when they purposely agree with each other purposely then it is time to ask why are they doing that? How would they feel if you did it to them? Friendship is a two way street and not an excuse to gang up on someone.

5# if you don’t wanna lose a friends you have known forever?

So how I have done it, is through Social media like Facebook and Instagram but by sending a letter or a card occasionally. This can feel to them a warm hug to say I know we are not really in each others lives, you still love them and you are there should they wish to return to see you physically again.

It is all about what you value in a person? One thing I like to see is that they will be honest. Friends do fall out, but doesn’t has to mean, you can’t be friends. It is good to see things differently and not all have the same out look on life. I like to be friends with many different people. It to me, when having friends I worked with at Butlins for example opened my eyes and that I can be myself and they can be themselves too.

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Carrie X