If you had a mirror where you would picture your life what would you see? What would it say to you or show?

Would it make you feel happy or sad? There was a time I hated my own reflection. I wouldn’t try on clothes in a fitting room. When I was at school we didn’t have cubicles but one big changing room and would feel so uncomfortable. The same at Primary school and would get remarks from my fellow pupils. I hated having boobs. I was not ready for teenage hood. Mother nature decided it was time for me to form early and I didn’t like it.

I do write a blog about Self Confidence: https://mydailythougthsandfeelings.blogspot.com/2025/01/how-friday-nights-have-changed.html

Now I am comfortable in looking the mirror and see someone who has lived and got plenty to give. It has taken a lot to see myself in a positive light and my life too. I loved going to dancing school as a kid. Now, I like that I can share my life. I found growing up daunting, because the way you looked mattered. I didn’t want to be trendy. I wanted to be happy with what I saw. So I began to get fit and take on challenges like running and walking events. This made me see, what I was capable of and feel proud of myself.

What challenges would you undertake? What changes would you do, to feel good when looking in the mirror and be proud of yourself and write down how you feel.

I was fed up with giving myself such a hard time. I had to change my mindset. Being healthy is what I need, not a hourglass figure. All bodies are beautiful. I remember going to rugby. There was a guy who I didn’t like the look of. When I learned he had a heart of gold, I realized I was being unkind. Since he was nice and was a good laugh, that was important. So, I worked on my own stereotypical mind.

We have kept in touch via social media. I have not heard from him for a while. Yet, it also taught me that men and women can be friends without it ending in romance. I have male and female friends and I love my friends and my family. They have been my teachers of life and am grateful of those I have met and still in contact with.

Being a good friend, mother, sister, daughter, and aunt is important. I love watching my nieces and my son grow. My son got an award at school. We went to a Christmas Event at his school last year. We also went to see an art exhibition he did at school. This year, he will be going to his third Residential trip.

I am enjoying my life with my son, friends, and family. This is something I would like to see in a mirror. I have got back into walking and joined Parkrun. I am registered to do Race For Life. I am working on radio now and have fully recovered from my Mental Health Battle. I am writing more books and blogs and expanding my Youtube channels. I enjoying meeting people and about other peoples lives and what they have gone through.

So now spend some time considering this question. What would you see if you were able to see your life in the mirror?

What does the future look like? Who is in this image and what do you look like? Are they your dreams or goals?

There is more I want out of my life. Keep your goals to yourself. As Terri Savelle Foy says, what you do behind the scenes has a bigger impact. You don’t have to tell the world just yet. Just follow your heart and mind to help your self-belief. Once you reached a goal, then tell the world. My husband didn’t tell anyone when he did his driving test. He failed the first one, so he retook it without saying anything and passed.

Set a plan and give yourself a target of when you want to achieve. Do you see that in the mirror? Does the reflection you see of yourself changed? What area are you going to look at first?

Take some time to answer. Put your list of goals with targets somewhere visible. Make sure you go through of what you see. I have started to put collages on Pinterest. I learned how by watching a video by Rachellea https://www.youtube.com/@rachelleea. Now, I am obsessed with it.

I set goals in my journal and plan away.

Review the goals you have already achieved. Consider the ones you want to set into play next. Yes, there will be hurdles. When you see the results, you’ll see that they are part of the plan. You can build a different, happy, and successful life and then talk about it and keep setting them.

What is the first steps are you going to set. When I started running and entered to doing the Great north run I didn’t just take on the 13.1 miles, I worked up to it by doing different runs and started of by walking and building up to run and now I am trying to get back to it by doing Parkrun and looking forward to doing the Race For life in June.

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I will be filming my last to videos for my Self Development training next week as it is half term and so been tricky to film. When I do I will post.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X